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📅 Mar 31, 2026 08:59
I’m having trouble figuring out how to handle a man I met through a dating agency. When we first met, there was a difference between us regarding the allowance amount, and we discussed it after arriving at the hotel. In the end, we agreed to meet under the somewhat awkward arrangement that I would accept a lower allowance in exchange for non-penetrative sex. I already felt that our values didn’t align, so I don’t want to see him again. ...
💬 Answer from シアトル:
Please send him this: “Rather than accessories worth ¥2 million, give me ¥1 million in cash upfront.”
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📅 Mar 31, 2026 00:30
I’m thinking about quitting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), but I’m very anxious about how I’ll manage financially afterward. At the moment, it’s difficult to cover my living expenses on my own income. I want to build a career in a specialized field in the future, but preparing for that takes both time and money. I’m still working toward becoming fully established, so I’m not yet financially independent in that field. I also h...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
I’ll answer by imagining what I would do, although it may not be very convincing since I’ve never had financial problems in my life.
If I were going to quit papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’d also quit any expensive lessons I was taking. Wouldn’t you be able to make ends meet by working more instead?
If you want to continue your lessons, then I’d continue papa-katsu as well. I don’t know why you want to quit, but maybe your current papa (a male supporter) is abou…
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📅 Mar 27, 2026 19:09
I tested positive for chlamydia this month, so I informed about six men who may have been exposed, but they all told me they tested negative. Apparently, it’s only transmitted through sexual contact, but I have no idea who I caught it from, so I’m worried about seeing them again. Two of them sent photos of their test results and the names of the clinics, so they seem trustworthy, but the other four didn’t send any photos. Should I cut t...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
Is the chlamydia infection vaginal? It can also affect the throat, but I’ll assume you mean a vaginal infection.
Chlamydia is only transmitted through unprotected sex. If those men really did use protection the entire time, then they’re all in the clear.
So where did you get it? From a man you had unprotected sex with in the past—even if it was months or years ago. The bacteria won’t disappear without treatment.
As for why your previous tests were negative: did you use one…
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📅 Mar 26, 2026 17:20
Thank you for taking the time to read this. What impression would a woman who has set her relationship type to B2, B1, or A make if she agrees to an adult relationship (intimate) from the very first meeting? I would appreciate it if the gentlemen could share their honest feelings on this. I’d also like to ask the ladies what risks there may be in doing so. Of course, regardless of gender, any insight into the possible risks and feelings...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
What kind of impression does a woman make if she agrees to an adult relationship (intimate) at the first meeting?
When you say “agrees,” I assume the man generally asked for it in the first place. However, men typically don’t ask for an adult relationship on the very first day.
The reason is simple: if the woman wants dinner only (no intimacy) on the first day and he ignores that and asks her anyway, she can complain to the club, and his rating will definitely go down. If h…
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📅 Mar 22, 2026 22:59
Mainly looking for answers from male members. A man told me he doesn’t want to rush into an adult relationship (intimate) and would rather get to know each other first. I’ve never had this many dinners with someone before becoming intimate, so I’m not sure how much I should close the distance by then. For example, would it be okay to hold his hand briefly in an elevator where no one else can see? My concern is that he might think I’m to...
💬 Answer from マルケス:
It probably depends on the situation in which you met, but I think he’s simply taking some time to see how things go.
Honestly, I feel that people who can’t decide after a roughly two-hour first meeting whether they want to develop a deeper relationship with someone often aren’t worth pursuing anyway.
Some people may want a deeper relationship but prefer to wait and see while considering the future or hoping to establish better terms for the arrangement. In that case, thoug…
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📅 Mar 16, 2026 00:20
I received an offer from a black-tier man the day after my interview! However, aside from that offer, I haven’t received any favorites or likes on my private photos at all. (It’s only been two days since my interview, though.) Is it reasonable to assume that a staff member recommended me and that’s how I received the offer before my profile was made public? Or should I assume that my profile is already public and I’m simply not that pop...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
In the Tokyo metropolitan area, it’s difficult to receive your member-page password the next day, and it usually takes about a week. So perhaps this was a regional branch?
I can think of two possibilities:
① The password has been issued, but your profile is still hidden. Before making it public, staff are recommending you to certain men.
② Your profile is already visible, but at a regional branch, especially if you’re listed as “Black,” there simply aren’t many Black-level…
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📅 Mar 15, 2026 09:38
A papa I usually have an adult relationship with and receive an allowance from asked me to just listen to him sing in a private room next time (lol). I’d be happy to go if there’s still an allowance, but could someone suggest a tactful way to confirm that? Thank you.
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
If it were me, rather than asking outright, “What about the allowance?” I’d naturally steer the conversation forward on the assumption that there would be one.
For example:
“Wow ☺️ I’d absolutely love to hear your beautiful singing voice. It feels so luxurious to be able to listen to you sing in a private room. I’d feel a little awkward receiving an allowance just for that, though… but if that’s what you have in mind, I’d be very happy ☺️”
Something along those lines.
Thi…
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📅 Mar 15, 2026 05:35
I’m the person who previously asked about being unable to communicate via Letters. Thank you so much for all the responses. Here’s a brief summary of my LINE exchange with this woman: Woman: “Nice to meet you! I’m ○○○○ from Universe Club. I look forward to meeting you!” Man: “Thank you for accepting my offer! I’m ○○○○. I look forward to meeting you too m(__)m” Woman: “Likewise!” Man: “I’d really like to meet you. Would any of the follow...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
So that’s what you meant.
I’ve dated quite a few female college students, and I’m currently living with one, so I can say this with confidence: nursing or school-health practicums are tough. It depends on the hospital you’re assigned to, but you have to follow around busy, irritated nurses while doing everything possible not to get on their bad side, even as they make snide remarks.
If you fail because of a low evaluation, you may have to repeat the year—or even drop out if…
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📅 Mar 14, 2026 23:40
I’m genuinely terrible in photos, and it really gets me down. Do you all look like the person in your photos when you meet? The camera is pretty high-quality, so I assume the pictures are close to how I actually look—but thinking that this is how everyone sees me makes me want to cry, lol. I had my photos retaken yesterday, Friday, and thankfully I’ve gotten likes from more than 30 people, as well as some offers, so I’m honestly surpris...
💬 Answer from マックさん:
I don’t choose women based on their faces. Honestly. I’m only interested in how slim their waists are—their curves. And their age, I suppose.
If someone photographs well, I can think, “Wow, she’s a beautiful work of art,” and I can tell whether someone is conventionally beautiful, plain-looking, more elegant, or more cute—but I’m not particularly interested in any of that.
Sometimes even people answering questions here brag about how beautiful their partners are, but if tha…
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📅 Mar 14, 2026 19:37
I like someone and want to know how to win him over. (He’s not an ordinary guy.) He’s in his 50s and single. We slept together once, and now I regret not making him wait longer. Afterward, he told me not to contact him again. I thought, “Oh, so he was only after one thing.” But we met through something like a club or group, so we still see each other regularly. When we do, he calls me by my first name without any honorifics and touches ...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
I guess you weren’t physically compatible. If things had been good, you could at least have become friends with benefits.
Physical compatibility includes things like personal hygiene, too.
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📅 Mar 14, 2026 18:40
If someone says they’ll send the allowance upfront via PayPay or a similar service before meeting for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), is it a scam? Does that mean they won’t actually show up?
💬 Answer from ダイ:
By any reasonable assessment, this is highly likely to be a scam.
There are plenty of women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), so it might be genuine—but I wouldn’t feel comfortable taking that kind of chance.
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📅 Mar 14, 2026 13:36
I often use Letter Date. I understand that once a woman sends a man one message via LINE or another app and submits a screenshot to the site, an offer fee is charged. The problem is what happens afterward: about two-thirds of the women either leave my reply unread or read it and never respond. In the end, the woman gets no benefit at all, while only the man has to pay money—even if it’s less than the standard offer fee, it still isn’t f...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> About two-thirds of the women either leave my messages unread or read them without replying.
You may be taking this seriously, but I think there’s a problem with the messages you’re sending.
You may think I’m exaggerating, but the messages sent by men who complain about not getting replies on PATOLO are awful. They contain things that make you wonder how anyone could actually send a message like that.
“Please list every day you’re available.” (← This is a scheduling appr…
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📅 Mar 12, 2026 20:06
Recently, the same woman has been at the very top of the women’s list all the time. I’m not filtering my search, so why is that?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
I wondered why, so I checked the settings, and it looks like it was set to always appear at the very top until a certain date...
It was a method that was popular about ten years ago, but we received feedback from men similar to the question asked here. After that, the president instructed us not to use this method anymore.
It seems a staff member who joined after that time handled the reshoot, so perhaps that rule wasn’t passed down. Or maybe they thought no one would notic…
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📅 Mar 9, 2026 14:47
I’d like some advice on how much personal information to disclose to a papa (a male supporter). When I met him for the first time, he asked where I lived, what kind of work I did, where I was from, and where my workplace was located. I gave a general answer about where I lived—just the name of my ward—and was also vague about my occupation, saying something like apparel or healthcare. But then he asked, “Could you be a little more speci...
💬 Answer from 50半ばのオッサン:
Wouldn’t it be better to stop seeing him? Or try changing the subject and steer the conversation away from that topic. If he still keeps pursuing it, then there’s probably something off about him, so you should get away.
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📅 Mar 8, 2026 20:56
I was invited out to dinner for a second time, and there was no adult relationship (intimate). I assumed I’d receive transportation money, but I didn’t get anything. I’ve only just joined the club, so I’m not very familiar with how things work. Is this something that should be negotiated beforehand, and is it common for this to happen? I feel awkward asking for transportation money myself.
💬 Answer from 負け男:
Universe Club is no longer involved after the second meeting, so you’ll have to negotiate directly yourself.
If you have her contact information, try messaging her on LINE: “I feel bad bringing this up, but I’d really appreciate it if you could at least cover my transportation costs.”
I’d like to say this to all papas: please give the woman her transportation allowance the moment you meet her. Lots of older men say things like, “It ruins the mood of the date,” but the woman…
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📅 Mar 8, 2026 18:22
I made an offer, set a date, and paid the arrangement fee, but later asked to change the date. Universe refunded the arrangement fee once in points, and after a new date was confirmed, I was asked to pay extra because the woman’s arrangement fee had increased. Isn’t it unreasonable to refund the fee in points without my consent and then demand an additional payment? Since I had already paid the arrangement fee once, I understood that th...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
> Since the arrangement fee was refunded once in points,
That would suggest that you canceled the offer, wouldn’t it? If it were simply a date change, the arrangement fee wouldn’t be refunded.
In other words, although the reason isn’t given here, I assume you asked to cancel because something about the situation didn’t sit right with you. They normally don’t accept cancellations, but perhaps they agreed because they felt your reason was legitimate.
> When a new date was fi…
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📅 Mar 7, 2026 02:06
I’ve re-registered with Universe Club. For re-registrations, can all male members view my profile from the first day, regardless of whether they’re Black or Platinum members? Or is it the same as for new female members, where Black members can view the profile on the day of registration and Platinum members can view it two days later?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Thank you for your question, Mina.
Even if you re-register, your profile is gradually made visible to Black-tier male members, just like a new woman’s profile.
Under the current system, there is one disadvantage: even after you leave and re-register, your original registration date remains displayed forever as your registration date. Other than that, there shouldn’t be any particular disadvantages, so please don’t worry.
Actually, your profile is also displayed in stages w…
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📅 Mar 6, 2026 13:58
Concerned about being identified and how personal information is handled. A while back, a weekly magazine reported that an NHK announcer had been registered, didn’t it? They had even obtained her self-introduction video, although she had already withdrawn by then. I’m worried that someone on the club’s staff may have leaked it. Did they show it because a reporter came asking, or did they show it without realizing it was for a news story...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
It’s probably fine.
The person asking the question isn’t that famous, after all. There’s no real demand for anything to be leaked in the first place.
It would be a different story if you became famous, though.
If you’re aiming to become a celebrity or an announcer, I do think it’s better not to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Instagram and X are much more of a permanent digital footprint, in my opinion.
As an aside, among the women Fuu has made offers to, th…
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📅 Mar 4, 2026 11:21
I’m a single woman in my late 30s, and I’m struggling financially, so I’m considering starting papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). However, I’m worried that there may not be much demand for someone my age. Is it possible to become a kept woman even when you’re nearly 40?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Being just shy of 40 means you’re still in your late 30s, right?
Naturally, the number of offers tends to decrease with age. Even so, attractive women still receive offers.
I think what makes someone attractive changes depending on her age group. When you’re young, it’s mostly about your appearance. But as you get older, you develop more depth, along with an alluring, sensual presence or an elegant, refined beauty. You begin to carry an atmosphere that’s uniquely your own, …
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📅 Mar 4, 2026 08:01
Thank you for your advice. About two years ago, a papa I’ve had a close relationship with rented an apartment for me. The lease is in my name, and I receive the rent and an allowance from him. Since around last year, due to personal circumstances, I moved back in with my family, so I was only using the apartment when I met this papa. However, I wanted a particular car, and he agreed to buy it for me. He then told me that, since he would...
💬 Answer from カズ:
I don’t know how sincerely you explained things to the other person, but I can understand their opinion that they can’t work with someone whose views change so often. In reality, you’ve changed not just your opinion, but your wishes as well.
Have you told them that you’re seeing someone else? I don’t know what you discussed when they arranged the place for you, but if you never mentioned your other partner, it’s only natural for them to assume that things would become financ…