I registered the day before yesterday, but the staff seemed a little cold, and I was intimidated by their attitude, so I couldn’t really promote myself. They also told me that there were many girls with a similar vibe, so I might get lost in the crowd.

I first signed up in my early twenties, too. Back then, the site didn’t yet have features for editing your profile or uploading photos, so I remember desperately trying to live up to the expectations of the people who approached me. One thing I worked hard on was making sure I matched my profile. Profile photos are retaken every six months, so for now, try going on dates wearing clothes with a similar feel to what you’re wearing in your current photo, along with the same hairstyle and makeup. That’s for the people who choose you based on your appearance. Also, if your self-introduction made you come across as timid, maybe you could turn that to your advantage and play the role of a “fragile girl” or a “quiet girl.” Of course, being yourself is best in the long run (since keeping up an act will wear you out), but for now, try sticking with that persona for six months! Present that version of yourself to the papas you meet during this period, and when you update your profile six months from now, you can have your photos taken in a more natural style. I think that should work out fine. Good luck! P.S. Yozakura and Seattle, nice to meet you! Thank you for saying hello. I look forward to getting to know you!

Even if the staff are cold, a papa (a male supporter) who wants to continue seeing you will be kind, so keep at it. If you’re in your 20s, skip the flashy nails—no nail polish is best—dye your hair black, and go for natural makeup. Female TV announcers and Nogizaka46 are good examples. P.S. Nice to meet you, Ringo-sensei. Good evening. Have fun!

If your profile has already been completed, unfortunately, there doesn’t seem to be much you can actively do at this point. You’ll just have to wait and see whether any offers come in. If they don’t, use the next six months to prepare for your next photo shoot: work on your figure, improve your skin, research clothes and makeup that appeal to the papa generation, and find a style that suits you before having your photos taken again. Even if the club representative came across as unpleasant, the information they gathered during the interview and included in your profile would probably be more or less the same. If you’re cute or beautiful and have a good figure, photos and videos are what matter most, so I think you’ll receive offers. If you still don’t get any offers after having your photos retaken, unfortunately, it probably means your appearance doesn’t meet the club’s standards. If you still want to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’d suggest changing where you look—try an app specifically for papa-katsu, the papa-katsu sections of dating sites, or papa-katsu through X.

> Is there anything I can do for myself right now? Build yourself up. You shouldn’t do anything else—not a single thing. Resentment, jealousy, and obsessing over someone will never produce anything. They’ll only lower your dignity. If you’re feeling frustrated, I want you to pour that energy only into things that will make your life better. Make an effort to become more attractive. Work on your inner self. Don’t do anything else, and don’t even show interest in it. You’re still young. Starting this very moment, devote yourself solely to improving yourself. If you do, your future will become brighter. And when you change your future, your entire past will be validated. Even the painful experience of interviewing at Universe Club will become something you can look back on and say, “That’s why I am who I am today.” Do your best.

It’s kind of like a lottery. There are all kinds of staff members, so some of them are cold. (And it’s not that they’re cold to everyone—for example, they may only be cold to A or B1 members, or to anyone below Gold. Sometimes their attitude simply changes depending on their personal preferences, which is a real problem.) But that’s just how the world is. There will inevitably be good luck and bad luck. Even so, if you were able to register, things could have been much worse. If your luck is really bad, there are plenty of women who get rejected even though they might have been registered as Gold if they had been interviewed by a different staff member. They might have met a great man, and the men might have met a great woman, too—but they get rejected simply because they weren’t that particular staff member’s type. It’s such a waste. A few years ago, criteria for rejecting applicants were created to prevent this, basically making it so that almost no one could be rejected. But recently, some staff have started saying they want to be allowed to reject people because they’re too busy, and there’s even talk of permitting certain branches to reject some applicants. So the criteria created back then may have been changed as well. > I assume they mean competition is fierce because there are so many women in their early twenties. I think they probably mean something different. If someone has average looks, average conversation skills, and nothing particularly distinctive about her, men may simply overlook her, meaning she might not receive any offers. That said, people who aren’t average are a minority and are relatively unusual, so it’s harsh to expect everyone to be like that. Still, I think they mean that it’s difficult unless you have something that appeals to men’s preferences. So it might be a good idea to develop some kind of distinctive quality—for example, taking up golf or finding another defining interest. > Is there anything I can do at this point? Once you log in, there’s a place where you can write messages yourself, so I think it would be good to use that space to promote yourself. Also, if you become a Q&A contributor and answer various questions, you may receive offers from men who think, “This answer is exactly my type.” So answering questions for the purpose of getting offers might be worth trying, too.

What you need is a more positive mindset. Even if a papa (a male supporter) makes you an offer and you go on a date, it’s concerning that you’re already saying things like “the staff seemed cold.” Your papa may feel even colder toward you. Other people are naturally cold and mean sometimes. The ability to get along with them and act cheerfully and pleasantly is what interpersonal skills are all about. Every good person has bad sides, and every bad person always has good sides. First, think about that and let it sink in. Then try to consider what was good about the staff member you felt was “cold.” That’s where you should start. This applies to all human relationships, not just papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). When you go on a date with a papa, you may feel uncomfortable sometimes because everyone is different. Even then, remember that he found you, paid for you, and made you an offer. Be grateful for that alone, as if you were putting your hands together in thanks. Not interpreting the staff’s response as “cold” is practice for developing that attitude. The key to making relationships more positive is gratitude. Take that to heart.

The moment I read your question, I thought, “Wow—what an unpleasant person, making excuses and blaming everything on others.” Still, everyone has different tastes, and I’m sure there are men out there who would see your extreme personality—which struck me so strongly—as a positive. So, if you write something like this question in your self-introduction, you might stand out instead of getting lost in the crowd. Good luck.