Nice to meet you.

As I’ve said several times, unless you’re deliberately trying to stand out with that kind of persona, I’d avoid using words like “specs” and “demand.” Beyond the content of your question, they make you come across as lacking intelligence. If you were a girl barely in her twenties, I might chalk it up to being influenced by social media. But in your late thirties, it really doesn’t come across well.

Please take a look here: https://universe-club.jp/women/female-data/ What’s expected of women in their late 30s and beyond is intelligence and stability. This is a question box, so you’re free to ask anything, but when someone asks about something they could easily find by browsing the Universe website for a bit, I can’t help wondering whether they’re simply anxious and looking for attention—or whether they lack the ability to look things up themselves. If you were a cute girl barely in her twenties who had only just begun learning the basics of life, that might be endearing. But from now on, I think you’d be better off aiming to become someone who can offer men comfort and peace of mind, or at least someone who gives off an air of intelligence. Hope this helps.

> I don’t think this is something you’re supposed to try hard at in the first place. I agree. It’s simply a chance for a man and woman who otherwise would never have met to cross paths through a club and money. If you can both be yourselves, without trying too hard, you’ll naturally meet more often, stay together longer, see each other more frequently, and eventually have no need to meet anyone else… What’s expected is not trying too hard, and being your usual, unpretentious self—good or bad…

> I’m curious how much demand there is for women in their late 30s, purely based on age. The most offers tend to go to women around 30, followed by younger women—mainly college-age women. In other words, I think there are two main groups of men: those who prefer younger women, like on dating apps and the like (they’re into “green fruit”), and those who prefer women who are somewhat mature as people (they’re into “ripe fruit”). That said, even if you’re outside the largest age group, you can still receive offers if you have something that makes men want to go on a date with you. You may be feeling anxious right now, but once you register, you’ll know what the results are. I’d suggest waiting a little longer and then deciding what to do based on that.

It’s Fullerene! There’s definitely demand for you, so don’t worry. One of my monthly arrangement partners is in her 40s, too. The bar for passing the screening probably varies depending on age, so if you made it through the interview, that means the staff judged that there’s demand for you. That said, you’re probably talking about the first meeting, right? When it comes to whether you can continue seeing someone after that, personality and what you bring to the table generally become more important with age. One thing that caught my attention was how you use the word “specs.” Saying things like “specs: 110” sounds very much like nightlife-industry jargon, so you might want to be a little careful with that… Also, you said you want to work hard at this, but personally, I don’t think this is something you should have to push yourself hard to do in the first place. Do you mean you want to work on broadening the range of men you’ll consider dating, or that you want to work on managing your energy and schedule? If it’s the former, please be careful—it can really take a toll on you mentally.