Is there really such a thing as “what lies beyond papa-katsu”?
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I’ve been doing papa-katsu for quite a long time, and I’ve heard both girls and papas talk about reaching “the other side” of papa-katsu. Part of me feels envious, but another part wonders if it’s just a fantasy.
For example:
- Falling seriously in love with a papa and proposing to him
- Meeting the best girl ever—someone you’d be happy to give any amount of money to—and now living together
Any kind of story is welcome.
I’d love to visit that world beyond papa-katsu too.
Sometimes miracles happen, but getting hooked on the money can also lead you in a strange direction.
Personally, I feel the ideal end goal is not to aim too high, but to keep working a regular daytime job and do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for a little extra enjoyment—beauty treatments, hobbies, good food, and so on. Choose a papa (a male supporter) you feel comfortable with, keep things within your limits, and eventually either get married normally or find a boyfriend and move on.
Just be careful not to let your sense of money get distorted and end up feeling like you have to take Dubai jobs or work in the adult industry.
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You mean what happens after the papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) arrangement ends?
Ours is supposed to end next spring, but I think we’ll still meet up occasionally afterward.
We’re in our eighth year together, and she’s been saying this ever since about our third year. There’s an age gap of more than 40 years, so I ask her whether that bothers her, but she kindly says that being with Date-san doesn’t bother her.
Neither of us is seriously in love, but I’ve been with her longer than any other man she’s dated, and we’re close enough that she can easily come to me for advice about all kinds of things. So we’ve agreed to stay in touch, whether she feels like being intimate or something comes up.
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There is an “other side” to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
- Getting married (there are actual cases from Universe Club)
- Falling genuinely in love
- Wanting to give an unlimited allowance
■ Getting married (there are actual cases from Universe Club)
There have been actual cases of people getting married after meeting through papa-katsu, so I’d say this is a typical example of what lies beyond it.
■ Falling genuinely in love
Since there are papa-katsu couples who get married, it’s only natural that there are also cases where a woman genuinely falls in love with her papa (a male supporter).
It’s even happened to me. In fact, I currently have a Type A girl who I know has mutual feelings for me.
I never imagined I’d fall for someone I’d only just met, especially since I never genuinely fell for even my top favorite. I’ve reached the point where she hasn’t rejected me, so now it’s just a matter of how long this will last.
For someone like me, who has always competed by throwing money around, it’s hard when she won’t accept any money from me.
■ Wanting to give an unlimited allowance
When it comes to my top favorite, I give her pretty much an unlimited amount of money. This year will be about my fifth tax return.
Lately, she’s repeatedly asked me to reduce it, but I won’t agree.
And it hasn’t just been one-sided—she’s also treated me to plenty of things and given me lots of presents.
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Is “beyond papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)” what people mean by the world after graduating from papa-katsu?
For example, starting out through a work-related connection, then meeting outside of work, eventually getting married or starting a company together?
I feel like maybe one out of every 1,000 papa-katsu arrangements leads to that kind of world beyond it.
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What lies beyond papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)?
I can’t quite imagine what that concept is supposed to mean.
If we look at other terms:
“Shūkatsu” means job hunting, so is what lies beyond it employment?
“婚活” means marriage hunting, so is what lies beyond it marriage?
Then, when I think about what lies beyond papa-katsu, the meaning of papa-katsu seems to have changed. It no longer seems to mean looking for a papa (a male supporter), but rather dating a papa.
So if “the other side” is what comes after dating a papa, then the destination differs depending on the person’s goal.
For a woman whose aim is money, would the other side be reaching her target amount?
And if the goal is a relationship with a young woman, would the other side be a state in which she gives herself, body and soul?
Is that what it means?
The more I think about it, the more complicated it gets.
I’m starting to feel like it might simply be:
“All you have to do is close your eyes. Then you’ll be on the other side of papa-katsu.”
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It’s not that you went to “the other side”—you simply came back to this side. Papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is the other side. Normal relationships between people. Papa-katsu is a form of human trafficking, after all. While doing papa-katsu, neither the men nor the women are human beings. They’re inhuman.
I’m starting to think the questioner wasn’t really looking for the answer above, but was asking about the happiest possible form of papa-katsu—one that doesn’t feel painful—or perhaps a way out, because their current papa-katsu is so difficult. I wrote that right after waking up, still half-asleep.
In the end, I think it comes down to one’s state of mind—how humbly and positively one can think. Happiness is right beside you; you just haven’t noticed it. It sounds like an obvious answer, but it really is true.
Even in an inhuman world, don’t forget the things that are basic to being human: being grateful and not treating others unfairly, for example. Put another way, as long as you believe that there is a “world beyond papa-katsu,” you can’t reach it. When you begin to feel that where you are now is exactly the “other side” the questioner is talking about, you’ll naturally find your answer.
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The first person I ever did papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) with, 13 years ago.
We haven’t seen each other in 10 years, but we still occasionally talk about stocks or chat about work. He’s earned more qualifications and moved up in his career.
Sometimes he suddenly sends me travel photos, and I wonder if this will just continue for the rest of our lives. I’ve moved far away, so I don’t plan on seeing him again, but I feel like this might be what people mean by “the other side.”
Also, the woman I lent 47 million yen to has been paying me back steadily all this time. Next time, I’m going for conveyor-belt sushi with her, a cute housekeeper, and a married dental hygienist.
Could this be “the other side” too?
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