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📅 Jun 23, 2026 01:11
I tend to become dependent on people. There’s someone who currently likes me, but I can’t help doubting them. I’m always suspicious of people, and my lack of confidence has caused problems at work. Even when opportunities have come my way, I’ve turned them down because I didn’t believe in myself. When it comes to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I feel like someone would dislike me if they got to know me for who I really am ins...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
For women, being mildly dependent might actually be a good thing.
Too much can be exhausting, of course, but there are men who prefer someone a little emotionally needy.
As for whether you’ll be disliked, there’s no way to know, so why not try papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) and see how it goes? I think some men actually enjoy being led around by their partner.
Personally, Fuu can’t deal with that. I prefer papa-katsu to be upbeat and fun, so emotionally needy pa…
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📅 Jun 22, 2026 22:29
I’m the person who asked about sex (blowjobs) on June 10. Thank you to everyone who took the time to answer. The way I worded my question was confusing, and it didn’t come across correctly. Since I hadn’t registered an email address or anything, I couldn’t add a clarification in a reply, so I’m posting this here as both a follow-up and an update. When I give him a blowjob, he lies on his back while I sit between his legs. The issue was ...
💬 Answer from カズ:
I don’t think there’s any point in asking something you’re so uninterested in that it takes you two weeks to reply.
I also don’t understand the assumption that cuddling and touching each other isn’t sex, or that you shouldn’t get him aroused just because there’s no penetration.
Rather than asking complete strangers, I think you should talk it over with the person involved.
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📅 Jun 21, 2026 22:19
A man I’ve met twice asked me to see him from now on under a plan of hotel → dinner → hotel. When I turned him down, he canceled at the last minute. After that, he said he’d lost interest because I rejected him, and asked why I had no stamina despite working out at the gym regularly. Even on our usual dates, he spends about two and a half hours at the hotel and has difficulty getting aroused, so I’m worried that this plan would last an ...
💬 Answer from アンディ:
They’re already saying they’ve lost interest, and the fact that they’re canceling at the last minute is reason enough to cut them off immediately. But you could also tell them exactly how you feel, then block them on LINE and say goodbye.
Time to move on to the next one!
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📅 Jun 21, 2026 11:01
He’s asking for my address. He said he’d like to send me some local specialties and asked me to give him my address. However, I’ve read posts here saying that no matter how close you become, you never know how things might turn out in the future, so it’s better not to share your real name or address. I’m worried he might take it badly if I refuse, though. Would he be offended if I asked him to send it anonymously instead?
💬 Answer from マックさん:
Although it says anonymous shipping, even if you have it sent to a convenience store or held at a delivery center, you still have to provide your real name and phone number, so your personal information will be exposed.
He’s a man you met through Univa since he’s a Univa member, right? How about saying something like:
“I’m really happy you feel that way! But I’m sorry—I have a policy of protecting my personal information. If you don’t mind, since we had such a nice connecti…
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📅 Jun 19, 2026 19:58
I’m really struggling… with my own fetish… I want the saliva of young women… It’s my dream to have them let me drink it or spit it in my face. How could I make that dream come true…? I’m sorry for being such a pervert…
💬 Answer from 負け男:
Most papa-katsu girls will do it if you give them an allowance of 100,000 yen.
I brought up the subject with a Platinum Premium girl I met through Universe Club, who is currently sleeping soundly beside me and with whom I’ve apparently “leveled up” into a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship.
This is part of my series on how far you can go with someone you’ve just met through papa-katsu:
Kissing: I’d rather not, but if she asks, I have no choice but to do it.
Oral: Easier t…
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📅 Jun 19, 2026 19:52
I have a saliva fetish… I dream of having a woman let me swallow her saliva or spit in my face. Would anyone actually be willing to see someone this perverted?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
General platforms tend to attract mostly conventional people, so it’s important to ask yourself, “Is there anyone who would be willing to deal with someone this kinky?”
Realistically, I think there are very few women who would be okay with it under ordinary circumstances. However, in this particular case, since the woman wouldn’t be the one on the receiving end, there may be women who would agree for the money, or who would say, “That much is okay.”
That said, if your prefe…
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📅 Jun 15, 2026 19:55
I’m thinking about signing up. Is there an age limit?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
If you’re attractive, have a good figure, and look young for your age, you might still be able to make it work even in your 50s.
I think it’s worth going to the interview with a casual attitude—just thinking, “If I don’t get accepted, so be it.”
These days, plenty of women in their 40s are still very attractive, and some older papas find women in their 20s too young. So if you’re comfortable with a partner who’s older, I think there’s definitely demand for you.
Give it a t…
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📅 Jun 15, 2026 14:21
I don’t want things to get stale with my favorite papa. I don’t have much experience, so he naturally takes the lead when we’re intimate. That said, I have a feeling he might be more submissive by nature. He never does anything particularly adventurous or intense. I’ve tried a few times to take the initiative, but he’s naturally very organized and doesn’t like disrupting his plans, so I haven’t been able to follow through. I know it dep...
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
When I was taking papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) seriously, I struggled with the same thing.
At the time, I watched a lot of adult videos and studied them. It helped me learn techniques, and I also realized, “So this kind of expression or reaction comes across as sexy to men,” and tried incorporating some of them myself. Even sample videos can be helpful, so it can be fun to imitate little things you think look cute.
That said, if your partner is the type who like…
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📅 Jun 13, 2026 11:27
There’s a man I met here whom I’ve been seeing for 10 years, and I’m struggling with whether I should end things. At first, we met for the allowance amount we had agreed on, but partway through, he stopped paying. Whenever I asked him to pay, he would hit things and become violent. I continued seeing him because I was afraid of him. But I’m emotionally exhausted, and he started demanding dates lasting around 12 hours a day. I now feel t...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Since the other respondents have already answered the question, Fuu is reading this:
To all the women doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), here are a few precautions to keep in mind.
Above all, never share your personal information:
- Your real name
- Your home address or your family home’s address
- Your workplace or company name
Unless you’ve been seeing a papa (a male supporter) for several years and trust him completely—or he’s a very generous (well-paying) …
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📅 Jun 12, 2026 11:54
I’m struggling with my relationship with my papa (a male supporter). He’s extremely jealous and controlling. He messages me every day, and if we don’t see each other every week, he gets sulky and suspects I’m seeing another man. If I can’t reply to his LINE messages, he unsends them. Even when I genuinely felt sick and had to cancel at the last minute, he came to my home. He rented an apartment for me, so he knows where I live. I could ...
💬 Answer from 紙ひこうき:
> Being jealous and overly possessive
can also be a reflection of insecurity, I think.
As someone who’s far too confident, that’s something I could never imagine doing. My mindset is that all that matters is being chosen, so I never try to control someone.
Do you and the man in question perhaps share similar traits?
It sounds like the two of you may have a good relationship—one where your hearts subtly brush against each other, where you don’t fully understand each other …
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📅 Jun 11, 2026 18:49
Is there usually a reason when a male member uses a club name like “X” (not their real club name)?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Thanks to Yazakura’s help, I figured it out.
Apparently, if someone’s profile is set to public even though they haven’t configured it themselves, a temporary club name consisting of one character is assigned.
Profiles are automatically made public unless the person takes action, so they may either be unaware that their profile exists or simply find it too much trouble to edit and leave it as is.
It may also be because dating clubs originally operated on a system where men …
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📅 Jun 10, 2026 23:13
I have a question about sex. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a year and a half. We’re both single, and I assume we’ve both had our share of past relationships. We had sex for the first time about six months ago, and since we don’t get to see each other that often, we’ve only had sex around five times so far. I’ve given him oral sex every time since our first time, but around the third time, he started holding the back of my head. At f...
💬 Answer from カズ:
I didn’t quite understand the point that you have to move faster when you’re being held down. If you want someone to move faster, wouldn’t you guide their head?
It seems like holding someone’s head down is more about wanting them to go deeper. Maybe your previous partner was willing to take you all the way to her throat.
The same goes for your current partner, but I think you should simply talk to them. It would be more productive to discuss it with them than to ask complet…
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📅 Jun 7, 2026 02:18
The other day, a man who had offered to meet me told me that when he inquired about me through the club, they showed him some feedback that had been written about me in the past, and he shared the LINE messages with me. While there were some kind comments that made me happy, there were also comments that didn’t reflect the truth. I felt uneasy knowing that this information was being shared with people I hadn’t even met. Going forward, w...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Regarding this particular situation, how about telling them something like:
“I heard from Ms. ○○ that my feedback says this, but that part isn’t accurate. What actually happened was this, and I believe that may be why it was written that way.”
That way, the man will be recognized as someone who tells women everything, so people will know not to discuss things that aren’t listed on their profiles.
As for the feedback, if the questioner’s account is considered more credible,…
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📅 Jun 7, 2026 00:21
Married papas probably have a hard time with gifts that leave a physical trace, right? If there’s anything someone has done for you that made you happy, I’d love to hear about it 🙏
💬 Answer from Fuu:
It depends on the person, so I think it’s best to ask them.
By telling them, “I’d like to do something for you,” you can get the conversation going and strengthen your relationship. You seem like a sweet person, OP.
As for Fuu, I don’t need gifts (and taking things home is difficult). I’m happier with actions or experiences than with things!
One thing that made me happy was getting chocolates we could eat together in the room on Valentine’s Day, along with a handwritten no…
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📅 Jun 6, 2026 10:21
I live in Okayama. Would it be possible to meet in Okayama as well?
💬 Answer from シアトル:
When I searched the Hiroshima branch for people living in Okayama Prefecture, I found 16. I can’t see the blacked-out profiles, though.
This is a great season for peach picking in Okayama, lasting until around August. Kibidango millet dumplings, the three hot springs of Okayama, and Bizen pottery are also worth checking out.
Of course, when you think of Okayama, you think of Momotaro.
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📅 Jun 4, 2026 16:46
About how many women are registered with the International branch who can be set up with someone west of Osaka?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
The international branch seems to mainly be for women living overseas who want to do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
If I interpret the questioner’s request in my own way, it sounds like they want to be intimate through papa-katsu with half-Japanese or foreign women—is that right?
Since I’m here, I’d like to try it with a half-Japanese or foreign woman someday too. I’ve been registered for seven years, but I still haven’t had the chance. I just haven’t found a pro…
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📅 Jun 4, 2026 02:16
Could an allowance be considered a gift or taxable income?
💬 Answer from Fuu:
LOL. You know what you’re writing, at least to some extent, right? The questioner even specified the type.
I could understand it if it were a woman asking, “Do I have to pay taxes?” but…
What are you really trying to say?
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📅 Jun 3, 2026 20:01
Regarding the star ratings: I read the page about the rating system, but I still don’t quite understand how it works, so I’d appreciate some clarification. It says that the scores from the date feedback surveys are accumulated, and that women receive an incentive gift of ¥5,000–¥30,000. ① What determines the amount of the incentive within that ¥5,000–¥30,000 range? ② It says the survey scores are accumulated—does that mean the average s...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
I think the club staff should be able to tell you if you ask them.
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📅 May 29, 2026 20:39
I’m currently seeing one woman on a monthly arrangement. I’m very happy with how things are, and as long as I can continue seeing her, I have no plans to make offers to anyone else. My membership with the club expires in July, and I’m unsure what to do after that. In my situation, which would you recommend? 1. Downgrade my membership and continue. 2. Cancel my membership for now and rejoin if I need to later. I’d appreciate any advice.
💬 Answer from Fuu:
I think you should do whatever feels right for you.
That said, even if you choose to focus on just one woman, she may not be focusing solely on you. She could be seeing multiple people, so I think you should keep that in mind.
Women are in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because they want an allowance, so naturally, if someone offers better terms than you, she’ll probably go with him.
I honestly have a hard time understanding why anyone would limit themselves to j…
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📅 May 27, 2026 01:19
I’d like some advice on suggesting a date plan as a woman. How is it generally perceived when the woman is the one to suggest the date plan? There’s a show I’d like to attend with my papa (a male supporter), but the tickets are quite expensive—around ¥20,000 depending on the seats—so I’m unsure whether it would be okay for me to bring it up myself. So far, we’ve only gone on dinner + adult relationship (intimate) dates, and I’m worried ...
💬 Answer from カズ:
It probably depends on the man’s preferences, so I don’t think there’s a one-size-fits-all answer.
He’d likely be interested if it were a show that matched his tastes, but if not, he might prefer to pass.
Generally speaking, if you’ve met someone a few times, chatted over meals, and had pillow talk, you should have a pretty good sense of whether it’s something he’d enjoy and whether it would be okay to invite him.
P.S.
There are cases where sharing too many of the same i…