I’m currently seeing one woman on a monthly arrangement. I’m very happy with how things are, and as long as I can continue seeing her, I have no plans to make offers to anyone else.
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My membership with the club expires in July, and I’m unsure what to do after that. In my situation, which would you recommend?
1. Downgrade my membership and continue.
2. Cancel my membership for now and rejoin if I need to later.
I’d appreciate any advice.
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I think you should do whatever feels right for you.
That said, even if you choose to focus on just one woman, she may not be focusing solely on you. She could be seeing multiple people, so I think you should keep that in mind.
Women are in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) because they want an allowance, so naturally, if someone offers better terms than you, she’ll probably go with him.
I honestly have a hard time understanding why anyone would limit themselves to just one person in such a wonderful arrangement where you can date all kinds of people.
This isn’t a matchmaking app, after all lol. Bringing up chastity and proudly limiting yourself to one person in papa-katsu—are you getting carried away with the idea that it’s some kind of pure love?
Just be careful not to come on too strong and make her dislike you lol.
I’m also saying this as a reminder to myself. I’ve fallen seriously in love, confessed my feelings, and ended up parting ways before. Since it was only papa-katsu, I really don’t know what I was thinking lol. I deeply regret it ↓
After getting cut off because I fell too hard, I doubled the number of my monthly arrangements to spread my feelings around ^_^
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Even if both people remain committed and want to continue seeing each other indefinitely, it’s quite common for things to suddenly end due to circumstances on the woman’s side.
There can be many reasons—being transferred for work, getting married, falling ill, or simply dealing with poor health. So, while it’s not necessarily about preparing for the worst, I think it’s safest to continue seeing other people as well.
Personally, I feel that continuing arrangements with two or three people gives you some emotional security, and that peace of mind can also have a positive effect on your relationship with your main supporter. Since you’re probably not planning to get married, I think things tend to go more smoothly when you keep a little emotional leeway and maintain a broader perspective in your relationships.
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If you’ve been a club member for over five years and have been seeing the same woman for more than three years, I think it’s best to leave the club.
Otherwise, or if you made an offer to a woman other than her last year, I think you should continue your membership.
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“If I can continue seeing this woman, I’m not considering making offers to anyone else.”
If that’s truly how you feel, then there’s almost no point in keeping your membership, so I think you’d be fine simply canceling it. I don’t see any reason to continue.
That said, there is one issue: if you break up and later want to rejoin, you’ll have to go through another interview.
The chances of being refused re-entry are very low, but if Universe currently sees some issues with you—even if they aren’t serious enough to warrant expulsion—you might not be allowed to rejoin in the future.
So, if you’re thinking, “I’ll just renew for now,” but feel the annual fee would be a waste since you won’t be using the service, you could always continue at a lower membership class.
On the other hand, if you feel that staying in your current class is worthwhile because you’ll receive invitations to events and be able to keep up with the latest developments, then continuing at your current class may also be a good option.
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③ Why not simply stay in the same membership tier?
If you really can’t bring yourself to pay the renewal fee, I think you should just cancel your membership rather than doing something halfhearted.
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I think you should leave the club.
Speaking from my own experience, when you feel you’re truly compatible with someone in every way, you naturally stop noticing other women. When I was dating her, it never crossed my mind to make offers to anyone else. Just leave the club and go on to a happy life together.
That said, the fact that you’re asking this question makes me think your feelings for her may not be that strong. So don’t try to play it cool—go ahead and fall hopelessly for her.
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I’d recommend downgrading your membership class and staying enrolled.
Even if you’re satisfied with the woman you’re currently seeing, you never know what might happen in a relationship. If things were to end, having an active membership would let you resume right away.
On the other hand, if you’re certain you won’t use the service again and don’t mind the cost and hassle of rejoining later, withdrawing once is also a reasonable option.
That said, when people in ongoing monthly arrangements ask for advice, it’s not unusual to hear, “I thought I wouldn’t use it anymore, so I quit—but a few months later I ended up rejoining.”
So, as long as the membership fee isn’t a major burden, wouldn’t the safest option be to downgrade for now and remain enrolled, then consider withdrawing once the relationship has become stable and long-term?
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That was ChatGPT’s answer. I agree with it.
This is exactly the kind of thing you can ask AI about, so I thought Abe’s daughter had made a pretty foolish decision. But maybe the best approach is actually to consult both AI and real people—a two-pronged strategy? Hybrid is unbeatable.
The lesson from the Abe director’s daughter situation probably isn’t the danger of consulting AI, but the danger of consulting AI alone.
To add a human perspective: things may have changed now, but in the past, upgrading your class made your membership valid for one year from that point. So if you’re renewing without any immediate plans to make an offer, the most rational approach is to renew at Standard, then upgrade to the appropriate class when a woman you’d like to approach comes along. That said, I feel a little awkward saying “Standard” when renewing, so I usually end up choosing the safe option, Gold（笑）
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I think option 1 should be fine.
If you withdraw, you’ll probably have to go through another interview to rejoin. Sorry if I’m mistaken.
If you don’t mind the hassle, I think withdrawing is the way to go! Then, once things end with that person, you can start accepting offers again and enjoy yourself!
Hope this helps.
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If you’re satisfied, option ① wouldn’t even be a consideration, so option ② is the only real choice, right?
But the fact that you’re asking this probably means you’re not completely satisfied and are wondering, “Could there be an even better world out there?” So I think you should keep your membership.
My monthly arrangements are all incredibly high-level, so I really shouldn’t have anything to complain about. Even so, I’ve continued my membership and kept making offers the whole time.
The monthly partner I’m meeting tomorrow is the oldest of the women I see—a beautiful woman in her mid-30s. She’s amazing. I used to make offers almost exclusively to women around 20, but now I can’t get enough of spending time with this beautiful woman in her mid-30s.
So, keep your membership going.
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