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📅 Dec 25, 2025 22:27
Why are unpopular men so flaky? Their communication skills are just awful—it’s exhausting. Talking to them on dating apps makes me feel like I’m dealing with a 22-year-old who’s never had a girlfriend. If anything, the 22-year-old would probably handle everything more smoothly and matter-of-factly. It makes me wonder, “Wait, is this a dating app?”
💬 Answer from 片瀬(牝):
Men who seem kind of “wishy-washy” often aren’t so much poor communicators as they are unsure how to gauge the right distance with women. They don’t have the courage to take the initiative, but they’re not prepared to leave things entirely up to the other person either, so both their conversation and actions end up feeling directionless.
Especially when someone is still like that despite being older, they often become extremely passive when dealing with women because they ha…
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📅 Dec 25, 2025 14:31
It’s been two weeks since I re-registered, but I’ve only received one offer so far. I occasionally get added to favorites, so I assume I’m still catching men’s attention, but I’m barely getting any offers and it’s starting to worry me. Could it be because my photos aren’t as flattering as last time? I’d lost about 4 kg since then, but somehow my face looked rounder than before.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
I think it also depends on how long it’s been since she re-registered.
If it hasn’t been very long, men who were already members may think, “I’ve seen her before,” and not pay much attention.
That said, as you mentioned, it’s also possible that the new photos simply weren’t very flattering. But we won’t know without seeing them.
If you contact Maezawa through LINE, where you’ve been communicating with the staff, I think we can check how the photos look.
Please feel free t…
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📅 Dec 25, 2025 06:48
When did membership really start to grow significantly? Around 2018, perhaps?
💬 Answer from シアトル:
When I became a member in 2019, I think there were around 2,000 men and 7,000 women.
Now it’s roughly 5,000 men and 7,000 women, so the numbers are starting to even out—probably since around the end of the pandemic.
Back then, there were lots of women you could practically have to yourself, but that’s no longer possible. In the past, about half the women received zero offers.
I’d say the number of offers has increased.
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📅 Dec 24, 2025 21:16
Men who insist on going without a condom are more likely to be single, right? Go to a brothel.
💬 Answer from 負け男:
They probably want to have unprotected sex through papa-katsu because having it raw at a sex-work establishment almost guarantees you’ll catch an STI.
Even if you use a condom, you can still catch an STI from oral sex, so I’m too scared to use those services. Of course, you can also catch an STI from a papa-katsu girl’s oral sex.
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📅 Dec 24, 2025 20:43
How much of an advantage is it to be able to speak English in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? Roughly what percentage of papas (male supporters) have English as their first language? An estimate is fine. I’m thinking of uploading a self-introduction video in English. Would it be possible to visit a branch and request an additional video recording? I look forward to your responses.
💬 Answer from だて◎ゆめ:
It would probably be quicker to ask the branch where you’re registered, but if I had to say, in my case, I’m just a country bumpkin and can’t speak English at all. Still, I don’t think being able to speak English gives you that much of an advantage.
ましてや、 English being someone’s first language is probably extremely rare.
That said, introducing yourself in English might be a good way to appeal to a papa (a male supporter), haha.
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📅 Dec 24, 2025 17:17
You asked about having your photos retaken, and since it seems to be weighing on you, here’s my advice. I recommend doing it at a branch with a large number of members. At a busy branch, it’s basically an assembly line, so no one pays much attention. At a quiet branch, they may think, “Oh, they’re back again.” So I’d recommend Shinjuku, based on my personal experience.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
I thought this would be hidden since it wasn’t really a question, but someone answered it anyway...
What’s with recommending a branch that just handles people assembly-line style?
If you went to a branch like that, wouldn’t you end up with pretty lousy photos? They probably wouldn’t give you much personalized advice either.
Personally, I wouldn’t go to a branch that treats everyone like part of an assembly line. I’d prefer one that takes the time to really help you.
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📅 Dec 24, 2025 02:05
I previously asked for advice here, and I’d like some more guidance about the married man in his early 50s I’m currently seeing. He wants to spend the entire time we’re together having sex—six hours straight—and I’m fed up with it. The allowance is generous, so I kept putting up with it, but it became too much mentally. I made excuses about our schedules and didn’t see him for two months. I met him again yesterday for the first time in ...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
As for whether the questioner’s papa is guilty of papa-harassment, I’d say it’s clearly papa-harassment. But there are countless papas like that.
Just as women look for good value for their money and time, men do too.
I believe that being a papa is all about being used by women. That’s why I even tell the girls they can call me an ATM.
Since last night was Christmas Eve, this ATM was extremely busy. I met five girls yesterday alone, so I didn’t have time to go on dates. I …
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📅 Dec 23, 2025 21:35
I’m a female member who signed up at the beginning of this month. During my interview, I was told that profile photos are normally retaken every six months, but that I could request a new photo session outside that schedule if I asked. I haven’t received many offers, so I’d like to have my photos retaken. Is there a general guideline for how many months after the initial photo session this can be done? I’d feel bad asking the staff to r...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Since you weren’t prepared, you’d probably get the same result even if you had your photos retaken.
Most memberships last six months, so I think you should spend those six months preparing before going in for another shoot.
Work hard for six months to:
- Lose weight and slim your waist
- Define your face line
- Learn natural makeup
- Find clothes that suit you—ideally classy, feminine styles like GRL dresses
- If you have refined features, try brands like Darich
That’s ju…
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📅 Dec 22, 2025 23:18
I can’t reach ejaculation during the second round. That’s the kind of relationship we have, and thankfully my partner asks for a second round every time, so I oblige. But I end up drenched in sweat and completely worn out without being able to climax. They seem really satisfied, which makes me happy, but I can’t help feeling a little frustrated… I heard that tadalafil can shorten the refractory period, so I started taking it. It definit...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
What’s expected is—
I envy you.
With Fuu, the basic pattern is going for a second round. I feel like I could probably manage a little more, but it’s rare to be allowed to go more than twice.
Some things you could try are abstaining from masturbation for a few days before meeting, varying the location, technique, position, and angle, or getting excited with sexy lingerie or cosplay.
With Fuu, each woman has certain positions and angles that feel best for her, so if you fin…
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📅 Dec 22, 2025 11:00
I started papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) for the money, but being intimate with older men is far more unpleasant than I imagined. To cleanse my palate, I end up using women’s escort services and having sex with all kinds of handsome men. Sometimes I hate going to sleep while the memory of a disgusting older man is still fresh, so I’ll go straight to one of those services after meeting him. I end up spending the money I earned ...
💬 Answer from 負け男:
We “old guys” are basically sewer rats—we’ll complain that a PJ’s private parts smell even though our own breath stinks, then end things after just one meeting.
If you can’t put up with that, why not work at a men’s esthetic salon?
Once you become a popular therapist, you can make around ¥2 million a month doing “clean” services.
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📅 Dec 22, 2025 07:29
I’m thinking of signing up here, but are the perks really that different between the various membership levels?
💬 Answer from だて◎ゆめ:
Each class has its own characteristics.
After that, meet with them, hear what they have to say, and decide for yourself.
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📅 Dec 21, 2025 21:43
Because of my work schedule, I’ve only ever met people in the evenings, but starting next year, I’m thinking of trying daytime meetups too. There are plenty of private dining spots for evening meetings, but it’s surprisingly difficult to find them during the day. How do you all handle this?
💬 Answer from アンディ:
When I meet someone in the evening, we sometimes dine in a private room or at the counter, but during the day, it’s usually just tea at a coffee shop. Staying out for too long gets tiring.
During the day, we either part ways after tea or go from tea to a hotel. At night, it’s drinks followed by a hotel.
I’m not really a fan of lunch either, but I meet people with clear boundaries and a set approach.
As everyone has mentioned, there are probably plenty of restaurants with p…
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📅 Dec 21, 2025 19:44
Many technical intern trainees, particularly those from Vietnam, seem to be attractive and also interested in earning more money. Despite this, why is it that none of them register with dating clubs? Is it because the industry hasn’t done enough to reach out to them or provide information? Or could they face some kind of penalty—such as being sent back to their home country—if their registration or work were discovered? I’d like to unde...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
Scary, really scary.
It’s probably safest not to get involved.
If anything happens, the authorities may start scrutinizing the whole operation, and the system itself could even be shut down.
Someone I know is a board member of an organization that accepts technical intern trainees. Just one trainee getting pregnant becomes a major incident—it ends up in the newspaper, and they’re pressed over their supervisory responsibilities by the authorities. It sounds like a real ord…
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📅 Dec 21, 2025 14:05
People have been discussing the difference between C and D, but what’s the difference between B2 and C? Based on the answers below, it seems like what C involves would also apply to B2.
💬 Answer from マックさん:
When the degree to which a woman’s legs are spread is expressed as an angle, 0–30 degrees is A, 30–60 degrees is B1, 60–90 degrees is B2, 90–135 degrees is C, and 135–180 degrees is D. The previous question was, “Once it goes beyond 90 degrees, aren’t the legs already spread, making the distinction pointless?” This time, the question is more like, “Is there really any point in dividing things so finely around 90 degrees?”
Let’s try explaining why questions like this come up …
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📅 Dec 21, 2025 02:41
Is there really any need to distinguish between types C and D? I’m a C type, but from a woman’s perspective, C and D are basically the same, aren’t they? Since I say that I’m willing to go to a hotel on the first date if we hit it off, I feel like I can’t really refuse. It would be incredibly awkward, and it could even lead to problems with the man. Also, with dinner only, the allowance might vary depending on the person. And since I’m ...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
This is from the official Universe Club website:
- Dating Type B2
【From the second meeting onward】 The first meeting is dinner only.
There’s a possibility that the relationship may develop from the second meeting onward.
- Dating Type C
【Depending on the chemistry】 If you hit it off, there’s a possibility that the relationship may develop from the very first day.
- Dating Type D
【Proactive】 If you make a smooth invitation from the very first day, there’s a possibil…
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📅 Dec 20, 2025 10:19
I don’t understand the difference between Relationship Types C and D. How are they different? Both involve that kind of relationship from the very first meeting, right? I’ve heard that Type D is unpopular. If the arrangements are basically the same, why is that?
💬 Answer from 負け男:
I think D types are unpopular for these three reasons:
1. They seem like they sleep around a lot
2. The papa has a hard time turning them down
3. There’s zero sense of pseudo-romance
Older guys are a sentimental bunch, so they want the real thing. If genuine romance isn’t possible, they at least want a simulated romance—even if it’s just an act. D types give the impression that they’re rejecting that kind of pseudo-romance. It’s a matter of perception, though.
The di…
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📅 Dec 18, 2025 21:03
I’m unsure whether it’s okay to take a 21-year-old college student to New York. I promised to take a college student who lives on her own with little interference from her parents. My concern is that if we went without telling her parents, there might be no one to contact in case something happened. We’re planning to stay at a fairly nice hotel, but it’s not the kind of hotel a college student would normally stay at, so she probably wou...
💬 Answer from Fuu:
At 21, you’re legally an adult, so it seems like parental consent shouldn’t be necessary.
If something happens, and you’re married too, then if there’s an accident or anything, it’ll all come to an end eventually anyway, right? lol
If you worry about every little thing, what are you going to do about the fact that you haven’t told your parents you’re doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? lol Just kidding…
Economy class is definitely tough because there’s so littl…
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📅 Dec 17, 2025 14:00
Is it too much to want business class when traveling overseas with my papa on a 12-hour flight? I really love my papa, and he’s wealthy, but he can be a bit stingy. He always flies economy and only uses business class occasionally. We’re planning to travel abroad over the New Year holidays, but business class is extremely expensive during that period, so he booked us economy. This will be my first overseas trip with him. Before the trip...
💬 Answer from 横断歩道:
If you want to go on an overseas trip, then I suppose it could be considered a luxury. But if you don’t actually want to go and are only going because your papa (a male supporter) wants to, then I don’t think it’s a luxury.
It doesn’t sound like you’re in a relationship where you can discuss your preferences and decide together what kind of date to have.
(If you’re genuinely struggling but can’t say anything, you must be putting up with a lot for the money.)
Try not to le…
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📅 Dec 17, 2025 11:19
I’m Kida, the representative of Universe. I’d like to take this opportunity to ask the respondents here for their opinions. This anonymous papa-katsu question box has been around for nearly 10 years now, and I feel that regular updates are necessary for it to continue developing. However, because it uses Universe Club’s domain and system, it’s difficult to make major independent changes. After giving it some thought and hearing opinions...
💬 Answer from 木田（社長）:
Everyone,
Thank you all for your answers!
I completely forgot that I’d asked the same question back in November, so I ended up asking it again.
Sorry for being such an attention seeker!
I’m glad I got to hear everyone’s perspectives again. Many of you went out of your way to mention that you were offering encouragement, but both you and I understand that it won’t be easy.
It might end up being something deliberately offline—at a pub, for example—or perhaps something like…
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📅 Dec 16, 2025 23:34
I’m not sure whether I should speak to men using polite language or casually. I often find myself wanting to get closer to men I’ve met a few times. But I usually end up continuing to use polite language, so after meeting a few times, would it be okay to ask him whether he’d prefer me to keep speaking politely or switch to a more casual tone, and then talk casually? What do you think?
💬 Answer from シアトル:
I prefer speaking casually, so if this looks like it might be a long-term arrangement, please switch to a more casual tone early on.