I’m unsure whether it’s okay to take a 21-year-old college student to New York. I promised to take a college student who lives on her own with little interference from her parents. My concern is that if we went without telling her parents, there might be no one to contact in case something happened. We’re planning to stay at a fairly nice hotel, but it’s not the kind of hotel a college student would normally stay at, so she probably wouldn’t be able to tell her parents where we were staying. In the end, she might have to keep the trip to New York itself a secret.

At 21, you’re legally an adult, so it seems like parental consent shouldn’t be necessary. If something happens, and you’re married too, then if there’s an accident or anything, it’ll all come to an end eventually anyway, right? lol If you worry about every little thing, what are you going to do about the fact that you haven’t told your parents you’re doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)? lol Just kidding… Economy class is definitely tough because there’s so little legroom. That said, I don’t want to waste the money, so I’m going to upgrade Fuu to premium economy using my miles.

If you’re a college student living on your own, I’d imagine most people don’t report their travel destination to their parents. By the way, wouldn’t someone who can afford to stay at a fairly nice hotel in New York usually fly business class? If the man wants to pay for you, that’s entirely your choice. But if you’re traveling on someone else’s money, saying that economy isn’t good enough or that business class is the norm just feels wrong to me. I can’t help but think, out of concern, that becoming that kind of woman at such a young age will make things difficult for you later on. As for me, safety is important, so I don’t fly bargain airlines. But I don’t want to waste money either, so economy is more than enough.

When you travel abroad, don’t travel agencies ask for an emergency contact? You could even put it in your passport. Basically, all that matters is having someone who can be reached if things ever get really serious. It could be the woman’s sibling, too. Make sure you have travel insurance. I usually fly business class when traveling with someone, though. But international airports are exhausting, so I’m done with overseas trips. Okinawa is better.

If she really wants to go, I think you should take her. If she’s hesitant, then don’t. People can die in a sauna, or suffer a fatal accident at a love hotel. A car could crash into you while you’re walking around your neighborhood, or you could get attacked and stabbed by a drunk while out drinking with a woman. If you think about every possibility, it never ends. If anything, as Date Yume suggested, it might be a good idea to leave a note in your room. Business or economy—is this a variation of the “poop curry” dilemma? lol I’ll answer anyway: I fly economy wherever I go. If I were going to the East Coast, I might consider putting the girl in business class while I flew economy. If I started running a high-end business aimed at wealthy clients, I’d probably choose business class every time. I might even fly first class. But for now, my clients range from ordinary people to those with a bit of money, so I only fly economy. I want to stay on the same level as them.

You probably don’t realize it yourself, but the questioner is incredibly sheltered. I wonder if you grew up in a privileged family. Your perspective is very narrow. There are all kinds of family situations in the world, so whether or not a woman tells her parents—and how she explains it—is her private business. You shouldn’t interfere. This may sound harsh, but you really should become more self-aware. I’m sure you’ve been successful in your career, and people’s perspectives are supposed to broaden with age, but I guess this is what you get from someone in their 40s. As for business class, if I were going to the U.S., I’d want at least business class too. Actually, more than anything, I just want to sleep in a fully flat seat. But if I were taking a female college student with me, I’d probably match her and fly economy myself, even though I wouldn’t like it—depending, of course, on what kind of person she was. Have you ever thought about what kind of person a young woman becomes after being taken to New York in business class on someone else’s money? She grows up like the questioner from the previous post. Think about that before worrying about her parents. This is exactly why your perspective is so narrow. That’s what I wrote, but honestly, economy class all the way to the East Coast would still be rough. I’d fly business class, and she’d fly economy. If she was okay with that, I’d take her. If I had to make an excuse to her parents, I’d probably say: “Apparently, young women traveling alone to the U.S. are sometimes suspected of entering the country for prostitution and may be denied entry, so I asked a man to pretend we were a couple. That’s why the accommodation is listed as the man’s hotel, but in reality, I’m staying alone at a different hotel.”

After seeing this right after the question, “I might make her fly economy on a 12-hour overseas trip with papa,” it inevitably comes across as made up. I wondered if someone had created a fictional story on the same topic. That said, my answer would be: > I’m wondering whether it’s okay to take a 21-year-old female college student to New York. I don’t really understand why the reason for hesitating to take an adult would be her parents. She doesn’t even live with them—she lives on her own—so I’m not sure what the issue is. > She probably wouldn’t be able to tell her parents which hotel she’s staying at. Whether she tells them or not seems to be entirely up to her. When someone says they’ve been overseas, people are more likely to ask where they went than the name of their hotel. So I don’t really understand why the hotel name matters either. So it seems to me that the real things to consider aren’t those points, but rather how badly she wants to go and where you’ll be going once you’re there. If she doesn’t want to go, she shouldn’t say yes in the first place.

I think you should leave a note in the woman’s room. If there’s an accident or incident, her parents will be able to find it later. You’re both adults over the age of 20. This kind of relationship should be kept completely secret! Never tell anyone—take it to your graves! If there’s an accident or incident, you should be prepared to risk your life and face it together. Don’t let it happen that only one of you comes back alive. That’s all I have to say.