I’m the person who previously asked about being unable to communicate via Letters. Thank you so much for all the responses.

So that’s what you meant. I’ve dated quite a few female college students, and I’m currently living with one, so I can say this with confidence: nursing or school-health practicums are tough. It depends on the hospital you’re assigned to, but you have to follow around busy, irritated nurses while doing everything possible not to get on their bad side, even as they make snide remarks. If you fail because of a low evaluation, you may have to repeat the year—or even drop out if you can’t afford the tuition. You might not be able to retake the course for another six months. And once the practicum is over, you still have reports to write. They’re completely exhausted. Finding a new papa (a male supporter) is the last thing on their minds. Even maintaining a monthly arrangement is difficult. They probably don’t even have the leeway to take a break from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), even if they’d like to. Think about it: a practicum means they’ve finished their classroom studies and are at the final stage. By then, they’ve usually got their tuition and living expenses figured out. The college student has no reason to look for someone new at that point, right? So if you’re the person asking, you should offer to first- or second-year students up to age 20, or to female liberal-arts students. Alternatively, look for someone who hasn’t been registered for very long.

Dragging out the back-and-forth is actually counterproductive. You need to state the amount. If she’s busy and seems popular, the only way to get her to make time for you is to offer money.

In that case, why not just request a set-up date…? Asking right away, “What days are you free…?” And without any back-and-forth, it’s completely one-sided and doesn’t even feel like a conversation… If all you want is to get physical, then just say so—don’t only ask about my schedule! Why call this a letter date…? There’s no need to meet… I’m not sure how much interaction you’ve had with him, but it does seem like there wasn’t enough of a basic self-introduction to start with. This person is probably dominant too? He’s coming on pretty strong… It would be better to pay more attention to the other person’s feelings. He doesn’t seem considerate enough of how women feel. Personally, I’m submissive, so in my first reply I tell him how happy I am, flatter him a little, and wag my tail… lol Of course, after that I ask about dates when he’s available—when he can make time to meet—and politely work around his schedule. I never specify a date and time myself. Zero pushiness. The other person is happy too and enjoys figuring out a date, so we quickly settle on a time to meet. Usually, we end up meeting that day or the next. Even if it’s difficult, it’s generally within two or three days. If someone accepts an offer, they presumably do so because they want to meet soon. If she’s in the middle of practical training, you especially need to ask when it’s convenient for her, or you’ll never be able to meet at all. Being in practical training means she has so much to do that she doesn’t even have time to see her friends. In reality, she probably hasn’t made plans to hang out with anyone, so she can make time fairly easily. If you find out when that free time is, nurses, trainees, and people studying for exams can actually be easier to meet because they don’t have other appointments. And if it’s through a club, you can receive an allowance too…

I’m currently taking a break, but lately I’ve been missing the exchanges on Letter Date and patolo. Even though I’m not short of people to go on dates with, I’ve been thinking about starting again, haha. If I can tell that she’s busy, I would never message her with specific date and time options. I’d let her know that I understand and that I’m willing to wait. I’d also say, “It’s totally fine if it takes a while for your schedule to come together. Please don’t feel pressured if you can’t reply right away!” You need to show that you’re relaxed and not in a rush. Just make sure you don’t come across as an impatient older guy. I don’t think I’ve ever had a bad experience exchanging messages on Letter Date or patolo… The women I met would often tell me, “You were just as pleasant in person as you were in your messages!”

If it were me, once she replied, I’d say: “Thanks for getting back to me despite being busy. Around when do you think your internship will settle down? Would you be able to go on a date sometime next month or later?” I’d also explain my dating preferences and allowance terms, then wait for her response. The questioner’s message feels cold and purely logistical, with no warmth or appeal to make a woman want to go on a date. Most importantly, it leaves out the allowance terms, which are the most important thing to her. That said, some women are slow to reply, or have simply lost motivation for papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). If the response is taking too long, I think it’s better to give up and make another offer. The reason Letter and Patro are cheaper is that you have to figure out the situation yourself and handle everything through to arranging the first date. If you’re only going to send your availability like the questioner did, as others have said, you’re better off asking a club to handle it. It’s also important to screen women carefully when making an offer. Personal preference alone isn’t enough. Are they currently active? Have they re-registered recently? Do they have good ratings at the club? Are they too popular? If you want things to work out and build a relationship through Letter or Patro, I personally think you should check those points carefully in their profile before making an offer. Their profile may still be up, but: - They’ve lost motivation and are slow to reply—or don’t reply at all. - They’ve become too popular, have plenty of offers, and don’t need any new papas (male supporters). - They’re simply slow to respond, which often goes along with low ratings. If you find it too much trouble to figure these things out through messages yourself, just leave the offers to the club.

Some women may prefer this kind of businesslike exchange, but generally speaking, women also judge men based on their messages. They may think, “Is he going to be like this in person, too?” In this case, the message contains many elements that could make her decide it would be better not to meet. Women’s intuition is often surprisingly accurate, so if someone isn’t good at writing, it’s a shame if he gets judged and rejected based on his messages—even though things might have gone well if they had met. At this point, I’m not sure why you chose a letter date. With messages like these, I think things would go more smoothly if you had the staff arrange the meeting for you. Looking at your messages, I don’t sense much consideration for the other person. It’s understandable that she stopped replying. I’m not sure whether your writing skills can improve quickly, but if you can work on them, I think things would be different if you made major changes to your writing style. However, if your writing isn’t going to improve right away, you could probably increase your chances of success by using your financial leverage, even with your current style. Would that be an option for you? If so, I think it would be easy to improve your success rate—you’d be able to meet women and continue the relationship. On the other hand, if you chose a letter date to save money, that approach would contradict your goal, so I think you’d be better off simply making a regular offer. > I’ve sent a screenshot of my LINE conversation with Mr. Maezawa, the staff member who answered, to the club. Please check it. I searched the LINE conversation with the staff for “Maezawa,” but nothing came up… I imagine a staff member will contact you after seeing the message, although they may not. For future reference, it might be easier to find if you include something like, “Please pass this on to Mr. Maezawa.” It’s also possible that you sent it by email.

This doesn’t really qualify as a Letter Date. It was simply an administrative exchange where you tried to arrange things yourself without going through Universe Club, but the offer never materialized. So there’s no way Universe Club should be penalized. The person who should bear the penalty—the wasted setting fee—is you, the questioner. If you want to ensure the arrangement gets made, I recommend a regular setting rather than a Letter Date. For example, if this had been a regular setting instead of a Letter Date, it would be perfectly normal for her to decline. The date you proposed simply wasn’t one she was available on. And even if you sent her other available dates through Universe Club as possible dates, if she wasn’t free—or wasn’t very motivated because she had lots of other things going on—there’s a good chance she wouldn’t even reply to the staff. So in this case, neither the woman nor Universe Club is at fault. > Man: “How about [date] or [date] next week or later?” ← Left unread for over a week afterward She read the message by long-pressing it. In effect, she left it on read. This is just my interpretation, but I think a Letter Date is a system designed to pass the saved setting fee on to the woman. That’s why I add the saved setting fee to her allowance or transportation costs. It makes the woman happy, and things tend to proceed more smoothly afterward. I wish Universe Club would officially announce something like, “Women will be pleased if you give them the saved setting fee.”