I know it’s difficult, but if you haven’t agreed on the allowance upfront, don’t go into his room. It’s better to turn him down.
You were lucky it ended with dry humping, but if he’d forced himself on you, you might have been left with no recourse.
The fact that he sent you that receipt already shows he’s a strange, sketchy person. Just block him on LINE and move on.
Wait for offers from other papas. I hope you meet someone good.
That sounds like a pretty difficult situation.
The man probably thinks that he negotiated and managed to get the woman to agree to his allowance, and that she accepted it because she found him attractive. He believes she agreed because he has something appealing to offer.
You see the same thing on Q&A sites: most men think, “Things are going well with women at this allowance, so what’s the problem?” Almost none of them think their allowance is low.
So when a woman suddenly stops replying, they end up asking, “Why do you think that happened?”
When you ask about the allowance, it’s clearly low. But if you tactfully suggest, “Could the allowance have been too low?” they’ll often respond, “No, she was satisfied with that amount.”
You can’t help thinking, “If she was satisfied, she wouldn’t have stopped replying,” but even if you say, “I see… Maybe things would change if you tried increasing the allowance,” they’ll say, “It’s not about the allowance. I wonder what happened. Can the club still get in touch with her?” And so on.
Most men are like this—though I apologize to the men who do understand women’s feelings—so regarding the fact that you ended up meeting him under the somewhat unusual arrangement of “agreeing to outercourse in exchange for lowering your desired amount,” I don’t think he realizes in the slightest that you’re dissatisfied.
That’s why I think you should first send him something like:
“I’ve reconsidered things, and I feel that it would be difficult for me to continue meeting under these allowance terms.”
You need to say it directly, or he won’t understand.
As for this:
“He sent me a receipt showing that he had bought another woman accessories worth about two million yen.”
I think he may have been trying to imply, “My allowance might seem low, but once we’ve been seeing each other for a while, I might even give you a gift worth around two million yen. It’ll be worthwhile to date me.”
However, naturally, the chances of receiving such a gift are extremely slim, and you would need to be capable of completely handling and controlling him.
With that in mind, I think it’s better not to attach any particular significance to it.
I suggest telling him that, after reconsidering the allowance, you’ve decided it won’t work for you, and then ending things.
What an unpleasant man. If you’re worried, why not message the club in advance: “I’m thinking of blocking this man for the following reasons. I wanted to let you know beforehand because I’d hate for him to complain to the club and have my rating lowered as a result.”
As for why he sent you a photo of that receipt, maybe he couldn’t think of any other use for a receipt for accessories—he certainly couldn’t claim it as a business expense. Some people try to make themselves look bigger than they really are by showing off. Just forget about him and move on.
Apparently, my “mushroom” was too large and hurt the girl’s “abalone,” so she suggested:
- half the allowance
- sex without penetration
We’re still seeing each other.
Please be careful, as you can still catch an STD through sumata (thigh sex). One respondent said they contracted an STD that way.
If you’ve already turned him down politely, I don’t think you need to reply.
The receipt photo may or may not have some intention behind it. Since there’s no real benefit in trying to figure out the intentions of someone you won’t be seeing again, you can simply ignore it. Even if a passerby showed you a receipt, there’d be no point in trying to figure out why.
If you’re worried, it would be better to consult the club. If something is causing you concern, why not take steps to eliminate that concern?
If replying would help put your mind at ease, you can say something like:
“I don’t understand the point of sending me a photo of the receipt. Even if this is meant as a gift, I won’t be able to meet with you.”
Keep the wording polite, but make sure the substance clearly shows that you have no intention of doing what the other person wants.
