Female members can send reverse offers to male respondents they like by emailing the administrator to express their interest. Male members can learn which female members are interested in them by answering questions and sharing their opinions.
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📅 Mar 26, 2019 18:53
I’m a male member in my 50s and have been a member for over four years. I don’t need women to send me reverse offers—I choose for myself—and making my profile public is nothing but a risk (though I don’t think it’s a particularly serious one), so the “You’re Wonderful” system is completely useless to me. If it caused no actual harm, I’d simply ignore it, but I’m fed up with how slow the site has become lately. (I suspect a considerable ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here with my answer.
There are currently only 446 men who have made their profiles public—just 446 out of approximately 3,000.
That’s a surprisingly small number, even with the campaign underway.
Once the campaign ends, the number of people using the feature may decrease further. In that sense, I don’t think it can be called a great success.
That said, if even a few people are using it, I believe the feature should be available. And if there are areas that need im…
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📅 Mar 26, 2019 15:21
I have a question about comments from the club on men’s profiles. What kinds of things would specifically lead them to write something negative? Being late, canceling at the last minute, verbally abusing someone, pressuring them to go without protection, or something like that? I’d like to know so I can avoid having anything negative written about me.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
Basically, when we receive several negative reports from women, we start to think, “This man is just that kind of person.”
Negative feedback usually comes when a man forces something despite not realizing that the woman is uncomfortable.
Women generally don’t tell the man directly at the time (or perhaps they feel unable to). When something bothers them, they do try to signal that they don’t like it. But whether he doesn’t notice or assumes it’s “probably fin…
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📅 Mar 26, 2019 15:00
Excuse me. I’m a woman in my mid-20s. I don’t think my upbringing or manners are particularly bad, but my height-to-weight ratio is close to 90, and I’m not very confident about my looks. Even at university, I was closer to the bottom of the rankings in terms of appearance. With looks like mine, would I inevitably be rejected at the interview…? Also, if I were rejected, would it be possible to apply for another interview after some time...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
Considering these two points—the fact that the difference between your height and weight is close to 90, and that you’re one of the least attractive people at your university—it does seem like things may be fairly difficult.
That said, you may simply have a low opinion of your own looks. Assuming you’re around average, the real issue would be your weight.
Some men do prefer fuller-figured women, so I find myself thinking that I might register if I were in you…
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📅 Mar 26, 2019 13:25
I know I shouldn’t have, but I asked the person I’m seeing to show me my public profile and ended up reading the club’s comments. There’s nothing bad written there, but I’ve been registered with the club for three years now, so it was a little disappointing to see that not a single word had changed since I first registered. Are those comments usually written during the initial interview and only changed if something really bad happens? ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
> I knew I shouldn’t, but I asked the person I’m seeing to show me her public profile and ended up reading the comment from the club.
That’s a violation of the rules.
“Please proceed with the termination of her membership...” would be going too far, but still—
When someone openly writes about violating the rules, I honestly don’t know what to do ＞＜
As you said, the club’s comments hardly ever get updated. I do think they should be revised more often, but un…
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📅 Mar 26, 2019 12:04
It’s been a week since I started sending reverse offers—would you say it’s been successful so far? Have you seen any results, like an increase in the number of offers?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
At this point, it’s still too early to say.
Once the campaign ends—which is scheduled to happen, so don’t wait too long—and the setting fee for offers received through reverse offers returns to the regular rate (as it will), we’ll see whether people continue using the service.
Until then, we won’t know whether it’s truly been a success.
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📅 Mar 26, 2019 10:37
After the first date, you usually exchange contact information, right? I imagine LINE is the most common option, but do many people actually keep a second phone specifically for their affair-related activities?
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📅 Mar 26, 2019 05:56
I’m a male member in my 60s. I don’t have a photo, I have an ordinary occupation, my income isn’t disclosed, and I have an average build. I can only make an impression through my messages, but I’ve received quite a few “You seem nice” responses. I have sent offers back to some women, but I can’t respond with an offer to everyone right away. If a female member has sent a “You seem nice” but doesn’t receive an offer back for quite some ti...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
If you’re receiving quite a few “You seem wonderful” responses even without disclosing your income, your profile text may be especially appealing.
> Can you now take back a “You seem wonderful” reaction?
Yes, you can.
I hadn’t explained how to cancel it anywhere, but just like on social media, you can remove it by tapping “You seem wonderful” again.
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📅 Mar 25, 2019 21:17
Regarding reverse offers, are male members aware that they may be able to make an offer to a woman in a higher rank? (For example, in cases where they haven't received an offer, as previously mentioned here.) Are they only informed if they inquire about it themselves? (I’m a female member who knows her own class, and there’s a gentleman in the class one level below mine whom I’d really like to receive an offer from. It would be a shame ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here with an answer.
In the past, men could make an offer to women in a higher class by paying an additional fee, but that system has since been discontinued. (It was discontinued quite some time ago.)
As a result, it’s no longer possible to make an offer to women in a higher class.
That said, men can upgrade their own class whenever they wish. So there isn’t much difference between paying an additional fee to make an offer and paying an additional fee to upgrade t…
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📅 Mar 25, 2019 20:59
Staff members say personality is also important when determining your rank (class), but can they really get a sense of who you are from an interview lasting about an hour and a few emails? I also question whether personality should be reflected in the ranking in the first place.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
There’s only so much you can learn in an hour—just a little, really.
That said, even if someone puts on an act, there’s a limit to how long they can keep it up, so you can get a fairly good sense of them.
Of course, you may be fooled by a woman who’s especially good at putting on a front. But if she also keeps up that act when she goes on dates with men, there won’t be any strange feedback afterward.
To put it bluntly, if a woman seems like a genuinely nice …
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📅 Mar 25, 2019 16:36
Sorry to be so forward, but may I ask a question? If a female member you’ve continued seeing after an offer is having a hard time or working really hard, and the problem could be solved with money—or you could cover the expense for her—have any male club members given her money separately from her allowance? I’m talking about amounts in the hundreds of thousands or even millions of yen at a time. This assumes that both people genuinely ...
💬 Answer from ジョー・ルビコン:
As a columnist and male member, Joe would like to offer his personal opinion, if I may.
First, let me say that this may not be the answer you were hoping for.
Assuming the questioner is a male member and that, as you say, the two of you are mutually in love, my personal opinion is: “Do whatever you want, within your means.” It may sound rather blunt, but that’s how I feel.
That said, I’m skeptical of the premise. In relationships formed through dating clubs, there’s genera…
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📅 Mar 25, 2019 14:58
Thank you for your continued support. I’m a male member in Tokyo. This may just be me, but lately many of the photos being uploaded seem to use a soft filter. They look fine on a PC, but on smartphone thumbnails, they don’t look crisp and clear. I suppose it comes down to the photographer’s personal preference, but would it be possible to upload unfiltered photos for the smartphone version’s thumbnails? I can already imagine someone say...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
Universe prohibits photo editing, so there shouldn’t be any photos processed with a soft filter or taken with a soft filter attached to the lens.
If there is a soft-looking effect, it may be because the camera settings had the contrast lowered, or because the flash created lens flare that affected the image.
There are probably differences between branches, so if you could let me know which branch’s photos show this most often, I may be able to check.
If it’s…
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📅 Mar 25, 2019 14:09
I’m a female member. Thank you to all the male members who have registered with the reverse-offer system—especially those who have uploaded photos. I really appreciate it. I have a question for the staff. Some members have comments written by the club, while others don’t. Why is that? Also, for those who do have comments, it’s disappointing when they simply repeat the hobbies and other information the male members have written about the...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
Basically, everyone should have one, but we don’t know why some profiles are missing.
It’s possible they were lost due to a data transfer error, or perhaps a staff member deleted them because they thought they weren’t necessary.
If we find any ourselves, we’ll check with the relevant branch.
As for the content, it’s generally almost the same as the description of the man we provide when there’s an offer. So it often just lists things like hobbies, which I th…
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📅 Mar 25, 2019 00:24
Sorry for the very vague question, but roughly what level would a female college student be considered if she’s quite beautiful, attends a fairly prestigious university, but has an average figure (around height minus 105)? It’s not about me, but I was curious about how important a woman’s figure tends to be, so I thought I’d ask.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
As for what class a woman would be placed in based on her description alone, the answer is that we wouldn’t know until we met her in person.
If you’re asking how important her figure is, it does matter, but it isn’t the top priority.
A woman’s face and overall vibe tend to matter most, followed by her figure, occupation, and personality.
Of course, some men prioritize figure above everything else, but if her figure is fairly average, her class will probably …
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📅 Mar 24, 2019 22:30
When should I receive my allowance? I had told him I had work the next day, but we stayed together until just before the last train. (We met fairly early in the day.) I wondered if it would be rude to bring it up myself, so I couldn't say anything. I'd appreciate your advice.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
Did you perhaps not receive your allowance?
The club can’t get involved in the private relationship aspect. However, if you didn’t receive not only the allowance but also the transportation fee—the guaranteed ¥5,000–¥10,000 payment—the club will take responsibility for requesting the transportation fee from him.
Even though we can’t intervene regarding the allowance for the private relationship, please let us know if it happens. The club can then keep track o…
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📅 Mar 24, 2019 21:56
What do male members really think of female members deep down? I understand, of course, that everyone is different, but sometimes I wonder whether being paid for an adult relationship (intimate) means they actually look down on me. As I come to respect and feel attracted to them, I sometimes end up feeling empty, thinking, “They’re such an amazing person—someone I could never truly reach. Given how we met, who am I to them anyway...?”
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
As you said, it really depends on the person, but if he’s a gentleman with no negative feedback, I don’t think he looks down on you.
The fact that he continues seeing you means he wants to meet you. There’s probably something about you—most likely how hard you work—that he appreciates and wants to support.
He may also simply find your company comforting.
Most men basically want to enjoy a romantic relationship, although many aren’t thinking as far ahead as m…
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📅 Mar 24, 2019 18:12
I'm a male member in my 40s from outside the city, and I often refer to this anonymous Q&A box. This is hardly a question, so I don't mind if it isn't posted and gets shelved, but I wanted to write in to thank Maezawa-san, the staff, and the column writers for their thoughtful answers to every question. I always find your responses very helpful. Thank you. That said, I imagine the representative has been quite busy lately, but I hardly ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
Thank you—this is a question box, yet I’m the one receiving thanks.
> I hardly ever see answers from the representative anymore, and I’ve been feeling a little lonely lately.
That’s true. The representative’s answers sometimes make me laugh out loud, or leave me grinning and thinking, “So that’s how they’re going to answer this?” So I’d like to see them answer questions once in a while too.
> Could someone tell me what kind of questions are likely to get the…
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📅 Mar 24, 2019 13:05
Another question: When I make an offer, we move on to scheduling, but whenever I suggest a date and time, the other person often isn’t available. Then it ends with, “I guess this won’t work,” and that’s it. I thought the staff would help arrange another date afterward, but apparently not—it just ends there. Is it fair to assume that the other person looked at my profile and decided they didn’t want to meet me? If so, let me say this as ...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
> “This isn’t going to work,” and that’s where it ends.
Staff are also in a difficult position because they can’t push too hard if the man hasn’t suggested another date.
If they ask him to provide another date when he’s already said it won’t work, he might get upset, right? So if you’re still interested, I think it’s worth suggesting several alternative dates. You may find one that works for both of you.
I’m sure the woman wants to meet as well, and the staf…
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📅 Mar 24, 2019 12:51
I’m impressed that UC keeps coming up with fresh ideas instead of becoming repetitive. By the way, I find the “Sounds Great” system very interesting. (Actually, lately, whenever I make an offer thinking “this is the one,” I’ve been completely striking out because of scheduling, so I thought there wouldn’t be any more updates.) All the people who have sent me reverse offers are rated C or D—is it just me? Part of me is happy, since it fe...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
I’m not sure. Perhaps one of the staff members who likes crunching numbers will share the figures at some point.
I was curious, so I looked at the five most recent people who went from a reverse offer to receiving an offer:
- Three were rated B
- One was rated C
- One was rated D
Looking at this, it seems like there are quite a few B-rated people.
But if you look at it from the other angle, perhaps the men are thinking, “She came from the B group, but since…
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📅 Mar 24, 2019 12:12
Are more men allowing their profile information to be searched? And roughly how many men have posted a profile photo?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
There were about 300 men who allowed their profile information to be searchable on the first day, but that number has now grown to 435. It’s gradually increasing.
It’s difficult to give an overall figure for how many have posted photos, since there’s no way to filter for photo-posting members. However, among the top 30 members ranked by the number of “You’re lovely” reactions, 13 have posted photos and 17 have not.
That means 43.3% have posted photos.
Lookin…
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📅 Mar 23, 2019 21:57
I’ve made my profile public and am using the reverse-offer system. About 30% of profile views lead to a “You seem wonderful” message. I’m not sure whether that’s a lot or a little, but I’m grateful to all the women who reach out. At the same time, though, I’ve started to feel bad that I can’t make an offer to everyone. It’s frustrating not being able to send even a simple thank-you or explain that I can’t meet because of the distance. F...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
> It’s frustrating not being able to send a simple thank-you or let someone know, “We’re long-distance, so I can’t meet you.”
Even if the system doesn’t allow it, the staff may be able to help.
Please send the name of the women’s club and the message you’d like to convey to the staff.
It will add to their workload, but I’m sure they’ll pass your message along to her.
If they refuse, contact me directly. I’ll send the message on your behalf.