When I look at men’s profiles, I often see things like “a transactional relationship once a month, like on an app...”

I’m Joe, a columnist and male member. If I may, I’d like to answer your question. Since I can’t look at other male members’ profiles, I was a little surprised to learn that many men write things like, “I’m looking for a once-a-month transactional relationship.” As for me, Joe is basically a hopeless romantic, so my profile is written to look incredibly good on the surface. Even I have to admit, it makes me sound like a really nice guy (笑). But I’m sure there are plenty of female members who read it and think, “What a creepy old man.” The real Joe is just a pseudo-gentleman, after all. That said, my own relationships are also basically once a month, simply because it’s physically difficult for me to find the time. For a wonderful woman with views like yours, I’d gladly make the time somehow. Apparently, the fact that I’m always so quick to say things like that makes one female member say, “You’re always so good at looking nice on the outside.” Sorry, princess. But Okinawa was fun, wasn’t it? This is just speculation, but although they may not be the majority, I think there are quite a few male members looking for women who share your outlook. I don’t think you need to change your views. I hope you find someone wonderful. *I apologize for slipping a personal message into my answer under the guise of a response.*

Maezawa here. > Could it be because I’ve been turning down a monthly allowance? I feel bad during months when we can’t meet very often. I think that may be where the problem lies. Some men have had bad experiences in the past, so they’re cautious and won’t offer a monthly allowance until they know they can trust the woman. I think he’s bringing up a monthly allowance because he feels that you’re someone he can trust. If you accept, the relationship may become closer to what you’re hoping for. The fact that you feel bad when you can’t meet very often shows your kindness and consideration. Precisely because you’re that kind of person, he probably wants a monthly arrangement so he can enjoy something that feels like a romantic relationship. With a monthly arrangement, there may also be days when you only go out for dinner. (That probably won’t happen during the first few months, but as you continue seeing each other, there may gradually be days when you just have dinner or watch a movie.) Also, by turning down a monthly arrangement, you may unintentionally give him the impression that you only want to meet at a hotel. Some women do prefer hotel-only meetings, so he may not know unless you talk about it clearly. Please try telling him what kind of relationship you’re looking for. If you explain that you don’t just want to meet at a hotel, but would sometimes like to have dinner, go on a regular date, and enjoy a pseudo-romantic relationship, I think a man looking for that kind of connection would be happy.