What’s with girls who suddenly disappear? It’s understandable if it’s a relationship where you only meet once a month or have only met a few times, but we’d been seeing each other several times a month for a full year, and a few days ago her entire LINE account disappeared. She left the club quite some time ago, so there’s no way to contact her anymore.
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We’d been getting along really well until just recently, so it’s honestly starting to feel a little traumatic.
Thinking back, the girl I was seeing before her also suddenly stopped responding after we’d been seeing each other for almost a year. Do you think I might be the reason?
I feel like I’m going to dwell on this for a while again...
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here with an answer as well.
There is such a thing as graduating from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Some women decide in advance that they’ll only do it for one year.
The reason might be that they feel guilty, or something along those lines.
So once that period is over, they graduate.
They may start papa-katsu again if they need to, but if they do, it’ll likely be with someone other than the person asking this question.
The reason is simple: after going out of touch once, it’s hard to come back and say, “I’ve started again.”
Since you may never see each other again, I think you should enjoy your time together so you won’t regret it.
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I’m Fuu, a column writer.
Isn’t a year actually pretty good? Your partner is in their 20s, right? I imagine they go through a lot more changes in their circumstances than people in our generation do.
I understand that you’re sad, but let’s move on to the next one.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
There’s a saying about cause and effect, so I believe there must be some reason behind what happened.
Based on the question, I feel the woman may have had some reason, such as:
- She grew tired of the relationship
- She wanted to move on
- She came to dislike men
I’ve always tried to build relationships where we can avoid suddenly cutting off communication. Even with an age gap, I believe that if both people are willing to listen, talk openly about their frustrations, tolerate the minor annoyances, and enjoy a mutually beneficial relationship, suddenly cutting off contact can be avoided. That’s how I approach things.
The club’s manager once told me:
“Date-chan, they end up crying over you…”
That may be true, but if so, I also think it’s important to create an environment where they no longer need me.
I encourage them to find a boyfriend, help them with career advancement, teach them about managing money and investing, and so on. That’s how I go about things. (Just something to consider.)
So, I wonder how my own ending will turn out.
I’m both looking forward to it and worried about it.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
Some women in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) see their papa (a male supporter) as nothing more than a source of money. It sounds like you happened to meet one of them. Rather than there being something wrong with you, you may simply not have any outstanding appeal beyond the allowance.
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I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
If she has trauma, there may be a reason behind it.
In cases like that, she may still reach out a few days later by text or something similar if she wants to stay in touch.
That said, if her entire account has disappeared, she may be someone who tends to cause problems.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
For her, I think it was either that relationships through the dating club were simply like that, or that she cut ties with people from the club to focus on more important relationships.
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