Ideally, I’d like to see just one person and build a relationship that feels somewhat like dating, with a comfortable amount of distance, but…
Ever since joining, checking the website every day has become a habit, and whenever I see a woman’s profile, I can’t help applying.
I’m worried the staff might be thinking, “He’s applying again.”
Is this strange? Have any of you ever felt embarrassed about making a lot of applications?
(For reference, I currently see about two women regularly, and I’ve been meeting each of them once a week for about a year.)
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Your number of offers doesn’t seem unusual to me.
The number beneath “Application History” in my dashboard is 29, which means I’ve made offers to roughly 290 women. Factoring in cancellations and arrangements that didn’t work out, I feel like I’ve actually met a little over 200.
In my experience, there’s only one truly exceptional woman out of every 100—a 1% chance. So if you’re only making offers to two women a month, it would take about four years. You should make more offers.
For the past year or two, I’d been operating in “giving up” mode and just taking things slowly. But in the last two months, I’ve found two women who agreed to a monthly arrangement before we became intimate, plus another interesting one. It’s not over yet.
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If a man has received a lot of complaints from women, the staff may be thinking, “Oh, he’s applying again.”
But if he’s highly rated by the women, the staff may actually be hoping he’ll make more offers. In that case, they might even contact him proactively, saying something like, “What do you think of this woman?” even when he hasn’t made an offer.
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In my case, it feels best both mentally and physically to have two or three women I see on an ongoing basis. So, to maintain that situation—and hopefully upgrade it—I’ve generally made an offer about once a month.
Everyone has different preferences: some men make ten offers a month, while others do so only once every few months. From the club’s business perspective, men who make offers frequently are naturally considered valuable customers, so with your offer frequency, I imagine they see you as a good customer.
To be honest, very few women continue for more than a year. It seems the only way forward is to steadily keep meeting new women and see how things develop.
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What I don’t understand is bringing the idea of wanting to stay with one person for a long time into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
From a man’s genetic perspective, wanting to pass on his genes to multiple women is instinctive, and dating clubs are designed to make that possible. It seems like such a waste not to take advantage of it.
Since clubs make money through commission fees—the more offers they receive, the more they earn—they naturally want members to make lots of offers.
For about the first six months after I started, I’d find myself obsessively browsing profiles, adding favorites, and deciding who to make an offer to next, haha.
Far from being embarrassed, I actually found it fun, and I’m nothing but grateful to Universe Club for creating this system!
I stopped using Patro because I was becoming unable to stop making offers, but after starting again, I’ve been making offers like a monkey, haha.
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At my busiest, I made more than 10 offers a month.
Since clubs are businesses too, they’ll probably welcome your offers as long as you’re not a difficult member.
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I’m pretty much the same—I meet around two new people a month on average.
In my case, most of them come through Patro, and occasionally through Universe Club.
I have no idea what the clubs think of me, haha. But I do think they probably welcome members who make a lot of offers, at least to some extent.
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Looking back, I really made a lot of offers—it feels nostalgic. Isn’t two people a month pretty average? I think I was making offers to around five or six people every month, so there were times when I was in touch with and maintaining relationships with more than 15 people in a single month. Visiting the site was part of my morning routine.
I also wondered what the staff thought of me making so many offers. But this is a path everyone goes through, and if you have that much room to spare, you should move forward with confidence!
Even though I have regulars I’ve been seeing for several years, whenever our schedules don’t line up, I find myself thinking, “Maybe I should get back on Patro?” I’m still not fully over the excitement of looking for new people and making offers, so I’m constantly reflecting on that, haha.
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