Since my time for dates is limited, I tell them upfront that I have children. I’m not sure how to respond when they ask if I’m a single mother. If I say I’m currently single, I feel that even if the relationship continues and something unexpected happens, I can minimize the inconvenience to the other person. However, I still feel guilty about lying. There may also be people who wouldn’t continue if they knew I was married.
Would it be fairer and easier for the other person to make their own decision if I told them I was married and asked them to act as though they hadn’t heard or known about it?
I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.”
If your time is limited, you can’t really know whether someone is married or not, so I think it’s best to go with whichever option is less burdensome for you.
That said, based on my experience with the club, single mothers may sometimes have their children with them, ask you to drive them home, invite you inside, or spend time around their neighborhood—since there’s no concern about running into a husband or people connected to him. Their patterns of behavior are probably different from those of married women.
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I’m a columnist and flag-maker.
It’s a job where you sell dreams. Since it’s essentially idol worship, wouldn’t it be safest, as a general rule, to play the ideal the person paying wants to see?
Basically, it’s best to present yourself as single—but if having a husband is what a particular man seems to want, then go with the married persona.
Showing them the version of yourself they’re looking for—that’s the truth.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here.
Hmm… If you’re asking how to avoid having the other person claim compensation, then after telling her that you’re married, you could send her a LINE message or email saying:
“I’m single.”
That would leave evidence that you had said you were single, so I feel the man’s side might have a slight advantage.
> Some people may choose not to continue if they find out he’s married.
Not “may”—they definitely do. They might not want to get involved in something troublesome, feel sorry for the husband, or have various other reasons.
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