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Sep 25, 2021 19:13
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🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I’m Maezawa from the president’s office, and I’ll answer this as well.
Women aren’t supposed to decide whether to accept an offer based on numbers. They’re supposed to consider the person themselves.
That’s why the display of the number of favorites was discontinued in the first place.
The reason we don’t disclose the number of offers is because it would be unfair to women with zero offers if a man acted condescendingly during the date, saying things like, “You don’t get offers anyway unless they’re outside the allowance, right?”
Likewise, it would be unfair to women who receive many offers if men said things like, “You sleep with anyone, just like someone in the sex industry, don’t you?”
So we wanted women to be able to say, “I’ve received a few offers,” even if they had zero, or “I’ve only received a few,” even if they had dozens.
That’s why our internal rule became not to disclose the number of offers, even when men ask.
However, because the original intention wasn’t properly understood, the rule gradually got distorted into something like: “As long as we don’t tell them the exact number, it’s okay to say whether it’s a lot, a little, or zero.” After all, “The rule only says we can’t tell them the numbers, right?”
That’s how we ended up with the current practice.
Apparently, the reason people started saying that zero was okay to disclose—even though it’s still a number—is that women who receive no offers are more likely to get one when they tell men about it.
But then I find myself thinking, “You’re still telling them a number, so isn’t that against the rules?”
It really reminds me once again that people interpret things in whatever way suits them.
In any case, since some people—as in the questioner’s case—use the number of offers as a guideline, it was discontinued.
Please pay more attention to the woman herself.
Rather than thinking only about what you personally consider good, why not also consider how women feel?
After that, if you come up with an idea and think, “This wouldn’t inconvenience women either,” I suggest proposing it directly to the staff rather than through the question box.
A~Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月1程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
I wasn’t around when that system was in use. I joined around the time the “Sutekiですね” feature was introduced.
This may not be the answer the questioner was looking for, but I think the system was discontinued because thinking the way you do could put women at a disadvantage.
Having a lot of favorites doesn’t necessarily mean that a woman is actually popular or receiving many offers.
It’s easy to imagine how frustrating it would be for women who want offers to be unfairly avoided because of that.
Even now, women who receive lots of likes on their private photos may be assumed to be popular and avoided for no real reason.