I’m the person who posted the question below and the two questions before it in succession. I’m struggling to breathe…
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https://universe-club.jp/help/questions/view/8000
The reason I became determined to register with Universe was as follows:
A few years ago, I came across the Twitter account and blog of a student involved in charitable activities. Since I worked in the same field, I began checking her Twitter and blog regularly, and gradually became interested in her in all sorts of ways. (The blog is managed by the organization, but it lists the participants’ names and affiliations, so I know her real name and university, though I’ve never seen her face.)
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I contacted her via Twitter DM, but she apparently mistook me for a spammer or someone with ulterior motives and blocked me. Around the same time, since I have a fairly respectable social standing and income, I began considering joining a dating club. That’s when I found this Q&A site and started occasionally reading the questions and answers.
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By chance, I found a question here that made me think, “This has to be her.” She had apparently gotten into an argument with another respondent or someone else, and perhaps became emotional and started writing about her background. I became convinced that it was 100% her.
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After seeing that, I felt once again that I wanted to meet her. I thought, “Even though she blocked me on Twitter, she knows absolutely nothing about me—I don’t disclose my age, gender, occupation, or anything else on social media. So if I make an offer as a club member, she won’t realize I’m the man she blocked on Twitter, and it might work.” However, although I know her real name, I’ve never seen her face, so I figured identifying her would be difficult. She’s in her early twenties and registered with the Tokyo branch, so there are probably many members with the same profile. I also don’t know her dating type, rank, club name, or anything else, so actually finding her seems nearly impossible.
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So I felt the only option was to ask, “Please introduce me to this questioner.” But I kept seeing answers saying that it would be difficult for staff to accommodate such a request. I became emotional and ended up writing all of this.
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If she happened to read these questions, she would discover my plan, and I’m sure I could never meet her even if I joined the club. But I want to meet her so badly that I’m now thinking there might be a chance if I offer an extraordinarily large amount of money on the condition that there’s no sex. ← This is where I am now.
What do you think?
Generally speaking, if a woman had blocked someone on social media because of a misunderstanding, would she meet him if he offered an extraordinarily large amount—say, ¥200,000 for just one hour of conversation? Or would that still be impossible…?
If it seems hopeless, please give me some words of comfort for someone who lost the chance to meet a person he had been following through her blog and social media for several years…
I’m sensitive, so please don’t insult or attack me.
Even if I couldn’t meet her, I just wanted to search for her and see what she looked like. But if she’s seen this question, it may get hidden from me… I’m devastated.
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Whether it’s at a club or anywhere else, when it comes to relationships between men and women, knowing when to let go and being willing to move on are key.
Questioner,
The first step is to think about what the other person wants.
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I’m Nana Ayase♡
At this point, you should try reaching out to lots of other women. I’m sure you’ll find someone who matches what you’re looking for.
After asking this many questions… you’re basically a stalker now.
It actually brought back memories of when I was stalked in the past:
“I’d been interested in you for a while” → “I liked you” →
“You must be happy to be loved this much, right?” →
“I want to make you mine and mine alone” → kidnapping (;ﾟДﾟ)!
Someone around your own age would probably be a better match for you. I hope you find someone who’ll love you well.
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This is serious, female members!
Apparently, even her real name is known. I think it would be reasonable to take these repeated questions to the police.
Club staff should probably ask during men’s membership interviews, “You’re not the person who posted these questions, are you?”
That’s how serious this is.
Aya’s explanation was very easy to understand.
Marika
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I’m getting a dangerous vibe from the questioner.
Instead of wasting time on futile efforts, they should’ve simply joined Universe Club and looked for a woman on their own. But asking questions in the Q&A box and then posting a string of emotional follow-up questions are all bad moves.
I also question their attitude of treating any opinions that don’t support their wishes as harassment.
I think that woman was right to block the questioner. They get emotional and start spamming questions just because they can’t get what they want—I can only see trouble ahead.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office will answer as well.
At this point, you come across as someone with serious stalker tendencies.
I don’t think anyone who can’t consider the other person’s feelings will have a successful relationship, no matter where they are.
The reason you were blocked on Twitter in the first place was probably that you messed up some part of the process.
People who get the steps wrong, yet fail to notice their own mistakes and act solely on their feelings—that’s what I think makes someone become a stalker.
You’ve made the same mistake with this question box. You’ve posted four times, and each time, people’s impression of you has gotten worse.
At this point, it’s almost fair to say you’re definitely a stalker.
If you hadn’t messed up the process, you might have been able to meet her through Universe. But since you did, it may be difficult now.
And even if she somehow notices and agrees to meet you, I have a feeling things wouldn’t go well afterward.
Because you’d probably keep sending messages on LINE, repeatedly pushing your feelings onto her, right?
It’s easy to imagine her meeting you once and then blocking you from the second meeting onward.
You should set some limits on your own behavior—for example, not sending another message until you receive a reply—and work on getting rid of those stalker tendencies first.
If you’re financially well-off, maybe dating around ten people at once would help.
You wouldn’t be able to spend that much time on each individual person, so perhaps that’s when you might finally become a normal person.
I don’t really know, but first, please work on getting rid of those stalker tendencies.
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I’m Aya, one of the female members.
Actually, when I was registered with another dating club, I once received an offer from a man like the questioner. He said my photo had really caught his eye.
However, although he initially said that simply talking would be enough, it eventually became clear from his behavior that he wanted sex, and he gradually started acting more and more emotionally unstable. He even began saying things like, “What are we?” It was truly frightening. He became so irrational that I could hardly believe he held a respectable social position, and we ended things very badly.
Let’s say you suddenly get the chance to meet a woman 20 or 30 years younger whom you’ve always wanted to support, and whom you thought you’d be happy just admiring from afar.
At first, simply talking to her might make you feel intensely happy. But then you might get a little ulterior motive and ask, “Could I at least hold your hand, just in case?” If she agrees, you’ll naturally start thinking, “Then maybe a little more next time…” That’s human nature—you gradually stop being satisfied with what you have.
The questioner would never be satisfied with merely meeting this woman. Male desire is far more present and, simply by existing, far more threatening to women than you realize. I believe both you and the woman would be happier if you continued admiring her from a distance.
If you can’t control the impulse, try imagining how you would feel if a friend came to you with exactly the same situation: an older man infatuated with a college-aged woman, desperately trying to find a way to contact her. What would you think of that friend?
That tells you everything.
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