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Aug 9, 2021 22:08
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A～Dまで一通りオファーの経験あり、多くても月１程度でLINEはスケジュール調整のみ、スマートに無理なく長期交際するスタイルです。
Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Dai, a male member.
She’s simply asking you to enter into a relationship as a form of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
She may call you her boyfriend, but you’re really just a convenient source of money.
There’s no rule saying she can only have one boyfriend, so she probably has other “boyfriends” like you as well.
If you’re okay with that, then go ahead and enjoy the fantasy of dating a young woman.
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Kazu, a male member.
A relationship through a dating club is still a relationship. I think when she says she wants to “date,” she means a relationship that includes an allowance.
Besides, isn’t the whole point of meeting through a club to have a transactional relationship? It sounds like she offers two options: an escort-style arrangement and a dating arrangement.
Other
You’re free to meet however you want, but if you’re going to keep saying you’re in love with me, then you’ll have to spoil me financially—that’s probably how you really feel, right?
Akari
Other
I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
>>It sounds like she still wants money even if you two start dating.
Since the guy who was hitting on her in real life was being persistent, she probably gave him her number thinking, “Maybe I can get some money out of this by turning it into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).”
As her “boyfriend,” you have no chance. Decide whether you’re going to continue this relationship on the assumption that you’ll keep giving her money, or move on and take your chances with someone new.
Incidentally, your only shot would have been to say, “Then I guess this isn’t going to work,” when she told you she still wanted money even if you dated. If she had backed down after that, you might have had a chance.
It was probably an uphill battle from the start.
NEXT ONE! Let’s move on to the next one!
Other
I’m Aya, a female member.
Women generally don’t tell men they genuinely see a future with—or men they seriously want to date—that they’re doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). This is just between us, but… maybe she doesn’t care what you think of her. I think it might hurt less if you let her go.
🏅 あなたの味方
お役に立てれば幸いです。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
I’ll answer too—Maezawa from the CEO’s office.
> Apparently, even if we date, she still wants money.
And yet you also write:
> Should I continue seeing her as part of papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), or see her as my girlfriend? What should I do?
I don’t understand why you think there are two options to choose from.
From the way you wrote this, it seems like there shouldn’t be any choice at all. Was there some event you didn’t mention that created these options?
Still, I don’t think ordinary people have the ability to see things that haven’t been written.
Ah—perhaps you wanted a fortune-telling session?
…
According to the fortune-telling, if you give her money and date her, happiness will come your way.
That’s all.