It’s Me here.
Congrats on your first offer!
At least he was kind enough to say, “Make sure you eat before you come.”
That leaves you the option of turning down the offer.
Apparently, there was a guy who went on a date hungry because he hadn’t been given any such heads-up, only to be told, “He only let me eat a few potato chips.”
It’s not funny, but I couldn’t help laughing lol.
This is Nana Ayase ♡
Mr. Maezawa’s imagination is truly something else (phew).
That sounds wonderful ♡
I also once had someone tell me to have dinner first. He took me to a dessert buffet at a hotel, and I ate tons of cake.
It put a big smile on my face and made me feel so happy.
I’ve also had someone suggest going out for drinks.
There are probably some people you’ll want to avoid, too.
Please take care of yourself. If you’re uncomfortable, it’s okay to say no—just tell the staff about them.
Maezawa from the President’s Office here, and I’ll answer as well.
Hmm…
This really reeks of a male member who’s a person to avoid.
I imagine it would go something like this:
They meet up and go to a café.
Man: “So, how about 20,000 yen for what comes next?”
Woman: “Huh? 20,000?” (Thinking, “What is this guy? He’s asking right away?”)
Woman: “I was hoping for a little more…”
Man: “Then how about 25,000?”
Woman: “Um…” (Thinking, “What is he talking about? I said a little more, but I didn’t mean that!”)
Woman: “I was hoping for 50,000…”
Man: “50,000? Do you even understand what 50,000 is worth? Do you know how hard it is to earn that much?”
Man: “That’s the amount you’d have to work 50 hours at 1,000 yen an hour to earn. You really don’t get it, do you?”
Man: “Or do you actually have something worth that much? Do you release CDs or something? You’re asking for 50,000 even though you have no particular value? Are you serious?”
Man: “Tell me right now what makes you worth that much. If you have something to offer, I’ll consider it. What, you don’t? Crying won’t help. You always start crying so quickly.”
Man: “Then 25,000 is fine, right?”
Woman: “Yes, that’s fine.”
Man: “Also, I won’t be satisfied unless we do it at least five times, so once won’t be enough.”
Woman: “Yes…” (Unable to think anymore.)
Something like that, perhaps?
That said, it would be a shame to turn down your first offer, so first make sure you stand your ground and decide in advance:
“I won’t accept anything below this amount.”
If the other person offers too little, I think it’s best to say:
“I’m sorry, but I’ll have to pass. If this was dinner only, no intimacy, would it be all right to end things here?”
Then collect your transportation money and go home.
Of course, I only imagined the unpleasant scenario above.
I doubt there are actually people that awful, but it’s important to anticipate the worst so that you don’t freeze and stop thinking.
When something unexpected happens, people can lose the ability to make sound judgments.
So it can be helpful to decide beforehand: “If this happens, I’ll do this.”
I did say that this person sounded like a person to avoid, but I could be wrong.
For example, if the meeting is at 3 or 4 p.m., that isn’t really mealtime, so the wording may actually have been considerate.
I look forward to hearing how it goes afterward—along with questions like, “Are all men like this?” Or perhaps, “Are all men this wonderful?”
