I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
Even if a papa is on the app, that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s seeing anyone.
I’m currently seeing just one woman, but I’m also a member of the club. Naturally, I can view the registered women, and I could send them offers if I wanted to. I simply choose not to. Your papa may not be sending offers either.
It might be fun to keep an eye on things. It could even be useful research for the future（笑）
Also, there seem to be other male members like me who only see one particular woman. So if you don’t like multiple arrangements, you might want to look for a papa like that.
P.S.
I haven’t sworn it with my hand on a Bible or anything, but things are stable and going well with the woman I’m currently seeing.
She was the first woman who eventually agreed to see me after initially rejecting my offer and after we got through the “pants incident.” She isn’t drop-dead gorgeous—just reasonably attractive. If she said she wanted to end things, I’d let the relationship end, but she hasn’t said that…
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
It’s better not to say anything.
They’ll just go, “You too? How do you know about it? You’re using the app?”
Then say “Hmm…” and abruptly hang up.
If you’re worried about STIs, why not look for someone who’s willing to use protection?
Also, something I’ve been thinking about lately:
When you genuinely fall for your papa (a male supporter), it really messes you up when you start wondering, “Was it all just superficial because we met through a dating club?”
I’m going through that right now. Time to look for someone new (tears).
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I feel like that would only increase the chances of getting cut off.
Your papa (a male supporter) paid a fairly substantial amount to meet you, but don’t you think he’d also like to find a bargain on the app if possible?
Besides, you’re doing the same thing, aren’t you? You registered on the app and are messaging people, right? You probably wouldn’t find a papa without doing a ton of searching and browsing.
Could you say that to your papa?
I think the fact that a woman he made an offer to is registered on the app would reflect much more negatively on him.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
The club brings together all kinds of people, and similar people tend to end up dating each other.
If you can’t bring yourself to part ways, then you’re cut from the same cloth.
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I’m Taro, a male member.
I’ve had a similar experience. If you tell her you saw her profile, it’ll only lead to an awkward conversation, so it’s best to use it as a way to gather information.
The next time you meet, you could casually ask, “Are you getting offers from anyone else through the dating club? Or are you using any apps?” See how she answers. Nobody’s going to say, “Actually, I am using an app.” They’ll lie. Everyone has their own way of lying, so you can learn to recognize their habits—some will flatly deny everything, while others will be deliberately vague. Once you figure that out, you’ll be able to sense it when they tell another lie later.
Or, if you don’t want her seeing multiple people, keep the fact that you saw her on the app to yourself and seriously say, “If you were doing something like that, I’d want you to stop.” Then watch to see whether she’s still on the app. If she deletes her account right away, happy ending. But if she continues to be active, I think you should reconsider your approach to the relationship.
Either way, it feels pretty awful. Still, I guess all you can do is live tough without trusting or relying on anyone（笑).
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
In situations like that, I think it can be useful to discreetly keep tabs on him so you can get a better idea of what he’s really like.
You can even arrange to meet and see how he actually shows up at the meeting place.
(Of course, you’ll end up waiting around for nothing.)
Since the allowance can be negotiated in advance on the app, you could also pretend to be someone else and see whether he offers a higher allowance.
That may reveal that he’s giving other women more, which would show that he has some room in his budget. You could then try negotiating your allowance at an appropriate time.
That said, if you don’t want to be with someone who’s dating multiple people, I think it’s perfectly fine to end things.
Even if you confront him about it, he’ll probably just use a different account or app to see other women, so I don’t think it would accomplish much.
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Won’t they just say the same thing to you—“Then why were you looking at the app?”
Are you planning to say you were only checking whether your papa (a male supporter) was using it?
Even if that’s really what happened, who’s going to believe you?
Marika
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