I’d appreciate your opinions on giving a gift to a man I’ve been seeing for about six months, meeting two or three times a month.
Our birthdays are close together—mine was at the end of last month, and his is in the middle of this month.
The man didn’t send me a message or give me a gift for my birthday, but I had already prepared his gift in advance. So I’m wondering whether I should give it to him when we meet next time, two days after his birthday.
If you ignored someone’s birthday, would you feel uncomfortable receiving birthday wishes from that person?
I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
She forgot my birthday, but I remembered hers, so I gave her a present.
She said, “Thank you! And I’m sorry I didn’t give you a birthday present! It’s late, but can I give you one sometime?”
But even after several months, I still haven’t received anything lol.
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I’m happy just knowing that she remembers my birthday, so I think it’s better to give her something. Having a gift also makes your feelings easier to convey.
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If you already have a gift prepared, I think it would be nice to give it to him.
You’re probably not so upset that he didn’t give you anything that you’re thinking, “Why should I be the only one making an effort?” Right?
He likely just isn’t very interested in that kind of special occasion, so even if his reaction is underwhelming, try not to take it too seriously.
You could ask, “Would a gift be a bother?” and if he says it would, simply tell him you won’t bring one next time. How does that sound?
Marika
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here.
> If you overlooked your partner’s birthday, would you dislike it if they celebrated yours?
I don’t think he would dislike it.
He might think, “Oops,” though. Or he might not think anything of it at all.
(He may be the type of man who thinks, “I’m always giving her an allowance anyway.”)
So, since you already bought a gift, I think you should give it to him.
> I’m unsure whether I should give him the gift when we meet next time, which will be two days after his birthday.
Since it’ll be two days later, I think it would be a good idea to message him on his birthday, saying something like:
“Happy birthday! I’ve already bought you a present, so I’ll bring it next time we meet.”
If you want it to be a surprise, it would probably be better to give it to him before his birthday, but the timing just didn’t work out, right...?
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