I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
No, I don’t think so. And if two people really like each other, marriage doesn’t have to be the ultimate goal. As long as they care about and respect each other, I think there are all kinds of ways to be together.
I feel that way especially because I was just on the phone for a long time with someone I used to date—he’s married with children now. You don’t meet someone you truly like very often, so isn’t that kind of relationship precious?
Actually, no—that’s not quite right. I was misunderstanding things. In my case, we genuinely like each other to some extent, and we could be together even without an allowance, so it works.
Your papa probably does like you, but he knows you wouldn’t stay with him without an allowance. That must be painful for him, and probably why he wants to break up. I can understand how he feels.
From your question, it sounds like you see this as a relationship that depends on an allowance. For a papa who has genuinely fallen for you, that must feel incredibly empty.
If I imagine myself in his position, I think I’d probably feel empty too and be the one to suggest breaking up—while secretly hoping you’d say, “No! I don’t want to break up! I want to keep seeing you regardless of the allowance!” lol
Did you at least try saying something like, “No, no, I don’t want to!”? lol
Maezawa from the CEO’s office here as well.
I’ve never really heard of people breaking up because they like each other too much. That said, I can understand breaking up because one person fell too deeply and started to scare the other.
In any case, if you’re married, your lifelong partner is ultimately your spouse, so I think it’s only natural for the relationship to eventually come to an end.
I’m Date ◎ Yume, a male member.
> If you’ve ever ended things because you liked someone too much, would you mind telling me why?
I think it’s a little different from simply liking someone too much.
I suspect he may be encouraging you to graduate from papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
From your question alone, I don’t know anything about your financial situation, age, or circumstances. But could any of those factors be relevant?
