Why I absolutely refuse monthly arrangements.

Question

Because they reveal how stingy men really are. For example, if someone I was seeing three times a week for ¥50,000 per meeting switches to a ¥150,000 monthly arrangement, I’d end up having sex four times a week, plus being taken on trips, golfing, or drives once a week. I think this happens because men want to get as much as possible within their limited budget and hate feeling like they’re losing out. But from my perspective, a monthly arrangement feels exactly like getting a discounted multi-visit pass. Of course, I might consider a monthly arrangement if I were getting ¥500,000 or ¥1 million a month, but it’s hard to find someone like that. (The “I don’t want to lose out” mentality is common among low-paying, financially struggling papas. Generous, wealthy men will often give you whatever else is needed on a pay-per-request basis, in addition to your allowance.) One of my monthly supporters keeps asking me to switch to a low-paying monthly arrangement, and I’m getting fed up. I’m glad he trusts me, but what reason could I give for turning him down? I’m not ready to cut him off yet, so I’m wondering if there’s a way to refuse without hurting his pride or making him end things with me.

Answer 1

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. My heart hurts. lol Back when I didn’t really understand papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), a woman once told me, “I’d be fine with ¥○ a month.” I replied, “Wait, does that mean I can see you as often as I want!?” I was such an idiot. lol But in my defense, I really could see her as often as I wanted. With another woman, I had a monthly arrangement for 5. I suspect that may be the highest minimum monthly amount ever seen within Universe. For the record, in both cases, the women were the ones who proposed the monthly amount and the nature of the relationship—not me. I’ll stop bragging now. So, what should you say? Maybe play dumb and say, “I’d feel bad making you pay someone like me that much every month… I’m perfectly happy sticking with our usual pay-per-meeting arrangement♡” More importantly, guys really shouldn’t be the ones proposing a low monthly arrangement. Turn the tables on them. lol

Answer 2

I’m Kazu, a male member. If you’re worried, I think it’s perfectly fine to say, “I’d like to keep things pay-per-meeting for now.” You haven’t even moved to a monthly arrangement or increased the number of meetings yet, so assuming that’s already the case is nothing more than a vulgar, cynical suspicion. And honestly, I think the real lack of class lies with people who, based on nothing but their own assumptions, call their dating partner cheap or poor.

Answer 3

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. I think saying, “I’d like to continue on a pay-per-meeting basis as we have been,” should work well. Ending things is an option too, but try your best not to get cut off, haha.

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