During intimate encounters, the dynamic becomes one person taking the lead and the other submitting. For those who enjoy taking the lead, what exactly is pleasurable: seeing their partner appear to be struggling, having their advances accepted, or something else??

Rather than simply taking the lead the whole time, when they show glimpses of kindness—like bouncing the cushion for me, stroking my head, or asking whether anything hurts—I feel like I want to accept their advances. When someone ignores my reactions and keeps taking the lead during the encounter, but then suddenly becomes gentle afterward, as if they’ve switched off that side of themselves, I end up thinking, “I’m glad I tried my best to accept it...” (Though people as wonderful as these two are pretty rare...) Is Mac traveling right now??? I always enjoy your posts♪ Thank you, and I look forward to your response.