She thanks me when I give her an allowance, but she never seems happy or shows any emotion. When I ask what she spends the money on, she only says living expenses. Maybe she’s a minimalist. She doesn’t show much emotional fluctuation either. For her, if it’s not money, what would make her happy? When I ask what kind of gift she’d like, she says there’s nothing in particular. She does seem a little shadowy. Compared with other girls, she’s less lively and seems rather unlucky, but she’s exactly my type looks-wise. I’m worried she might move on to someone else. Any advice?

I’m Kazu, a male member. When someone receives their allowance, are they expected to show their happiness with their whole body? I think being reserved in expressing emotions is a separate issue from whether they’re actually happy. People often tell me I’m pretty subdued too, so if she’s the same way, the most annoying thing is probably having someone make a fuss around her or push something onto her. If she wants to communicate, she’ll likely pop up on her own. Rather than trying too hard or teasing her, I think it’s best to let her do things at her own pace.

I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane. You need to be able to enjoy ordinary, casual conversation together. If a woman feels comfortable talking to you, she may gradually open up about the more personal parts of herself as well. Does the woman also get to choose the details of the date every time? The type of food and restaurant, the area, the timing (meeting time, length of the date, time spent at the hotel, and time for intimacy)—does she genuinely have a say in all of that? Think about how much things are actually arranged according to what she wants, and make adjustments accordingly. (If making a woman’s wishes come true doesn’t make you happy, you’re not suited to being a papa, so you should quit.) I don’t think there are any women at the club who have no emotional ups and downs. > What would make her happy? Men’s actions and consideration beyond the allowance. Above all, it’s about making sure she doesn’t feel burdened. Thoughtful actions that other men can’t or don’t take will make a woman happy. For starters, you shouldn’t ask what she plans to use the allowance for. It’s also a burden for her to feel that she has to act happy when she receives it. The goal is for the woman receiving the allowance to enjoy herself without feeling any pressure, and to have things go the way she wants. Simply put, being able to relax without having to worry about anything already makes for a comfortable experience.