Maezawa from Shacho-shitsu here as well.
Thanks for your question.
Apparently, quite a few men bring up a monthly arrangement right away. However, many of them end up learning the hard way, and afterward either decide not to do monthly arrangements or meet someone several times on a pay-per-meeting basis before deciding.
> If a woman goes silent after just one meeting despite agreeing to a monthly arrangement, and breaks the promise, the man doesn’t really suffer any particular consequences.
That isn’t what a typical monthly arrangement looks like.
Usually, with a monthly arrangement, the man gives the woman a month’s allowance upfront—for example, ¥300,000.
So if the woman is dishonest, she may stop responding as soon as she receives the money. She has already been paid, so she has nothing to lose.
Of course, most women wouldn’t do something like that. Still, it’s sad to think that because of a small number of heartless women, other sincere women may not be offered monthly arrangements.
So I think men who haven’t learned that lesson yet bring up a monthly arrangement when they think a woman is a good match, so another man doesn’t get involved with her first.
Most women are sincere, so with a monthly arrangement, you can be sure they’ll meet you for at least that month.
Also, considering that monthly arrangements benefit women too, it seems fairly common for them to continue meeting for six months or more. So I think men who can afford it are aiming for that kind of longer-term relationship.
It also seems better than thinking you’ll continue seeing someone on a pay-per-meeting basis, only to find that she’s no longer available from the next meeting onward.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I prefer pay-per-meeting, but I think either option is fine. If you consider it money you can afford to lose, it’s easier to accept it for what it is, haha.
I’m in Seattle.
He may figure that a monthly arrangement will be cheaper, since the woman could otherwise try to charge him a lot.
If they’re not a good match, he can just end it after a month.
Well, for a Black-tier man, ¥500,000 is probably just money to throw away.
