Thank you for all the generous offers.
There’s something I’ve been wondering about based on what men and people in general have said to me, so I wanted to ask.
People tell me things like, “You have a certain presence,” “I didn’t know how to interact with you when we first met,” “You’re alluring,” “You have a mysterious aura,” “You look very feminine, but your way of thinking is surprisingly bold and straightforward,” and “I can’t tell what you’re thinking.” To be honest, does that mean I’m difficult to deal with?
I’m not sure how to take these comments, and I’m wondering whether I should try to change anything. It’s been bothering me.
Thank you in advance.
Seattle.
The straightforward girl and I
are still seeing each other
Black-haired, lolita type
Talk to me more
The ongoing-arrangement princesses
are all heading back
to their parents’ homes
With no one to meet,
I’m eating mandarins
at my parents’ place
Death on top—
or dying from mochi—
I watch it on the news
It’s all just your allotted lifespan.
That’s life, too.
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Maezawa from the CEO’s office here—I’ll answer too.
Thanks for your question.
I don’t think it means they find you difficult to deal with at all. I think a lot of men simply like the fact that you’re different from the average woman, which is why they use those kinds of expressions.
“You have a certain presence” → You’re a classy, attractive woman.
“I didn’t know how to act around you when we first met” → “You seemed like such an amazing woman that I wasn’t sure how to act, but once we started talking, I was glad to find you were so easygoing.”
“You’re seductive” → Exactly that—you have a sensual charm and you’re an amazing woman.
“You have a mysterious aura” → You’re more captivating than an ordinary woman.
> “You look every bit like a girly girl, but your way of thinking is surprisingly masculine.”
→ “You look like a refined young lady, so I wasn’t sure how to act around you. But once we talked, I was happy to find I didn’t have to be so careful around you.” (You’re a great woman.)
> “I can’t tell what you’re thinking.”
→ “You do things that are beyond anything I could have imagined.” (And he actually likes that about you.)
That’s probably the general idea.
It sounds like what attracts them is the fact that you’re different from other women, so you probably don’t need to worry about it.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
Everything you listed is a compliment.
In general—not just in dating clubs—I think many men feel intimidated by women who are exceptionally beautiful and find it difficult to make a move. Surprisingly, extremely beautiful women often don’t have boyfriends. I believe this is why.
Among the women I’ve offered to meet through Universe, there was one who was so beautiful by my standards that I couldn’t even bring myself to say I wanted to sleep with her.
It would be a shame to change your looks, so why not try to come across as more approachable when you go on dates?
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