I’m a man considering joining. My workplace is based in a regional area, so I feel the chances of running into someone I know are probably higher than in a major city. Also, I often use decent hotels for business meetings, so I’m having trouble choosing one. I imagine others are in a similar situation, so I’d appreciate hearing what measures you take to avoid being recognized. Advice from experienced staff would also be welcome.

I’m Gaku, and I also live in a regional city. I’ve hardly ever done papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) locally, but when there was someone I really wanted to meet, I’d choose a restaurant near the nightlife district—somewhere people might use for a hostess-club escort dinner. That way, it doesn’t look quite so unusual to see a young woman walking with an older man, and even if we run into someone I know, they’ll usually just pretend not to notice. I try to use hotels that mainly cater to tourists, but even then, I make sure we don’t walk through the lobby together. If we’re going to a love hotel, using my own car is risky, so I rent one instead. With a taxi, there’s always the chance of being recognized. Still, I think it’s more enjoyable to travel to major cities like Tokyo, Osaka, or Fukuoka and take my time enjoying good food and drinks without worrying about running into anyone.