I’m a 33-year-old married mother who’s been divorced.

My afternoons are taken up by work or hobbies on my days off, and I avoid women with children, so I would never make an offer.

If you can keep things lively and natural for two hours, there’s demand for you. But if you just lie there passively for two hours, there isn’t. It’s Katase-san, serving up another perfectly timed gem just when I was starting to forget about him. “Beautiful day, isn’t it? Let’s go on a date!” Update: I went to a men’s esthetic salon for the first time in about four years today. It was ¥27,000 for 100 minutes, and an HJ was included as a matter of course. The girl said that, unlike four years ago, the services have become increasingly extravagant: once you add an expensive option, an HJ comes automatically, and apparently no customers leave without finishing. I found myself thinking I’d rather enjoy myself at the salon than go on a two-hour date with the questioner. It was shockingly intense, though. I added the outfit-change option, which apparently meant AN, and the girl was already AN from the start. Looks like I’ll be going back to men’s esthetic salons again. Update 2: I’m confident enough to think, “There’s no such thing as a female college student I can’t win over.” At the same time, I never let the girls see that confidence. I act humbly. It’s precisely because I have absolute confidence that I can put myself beneath women. “Taking the high ground from below,” so to speak.

I’ve answered this question here many times, but being in your 30s is absolutely fine. Women in their early 30s, especially, receive plenty of offers. To answer your question directly: whether you receive offers depends on your face and figure. Start by attending an interview at a club. If you pass, there’s a chance you’ll receive offers. Even after passing, though, what matters is whether the papas would be willing to pay for an adult relationship (intimate) with someone of your appearance. There are already married women registered who are only available for dates on weekdays during the day, so that shouldn’t be a problem. The only thing I’m wondering is: if you’re leaving your child at daycare or somewhere similar, can’t you make three or four hours available? Dates through most companionship clubs start at around four hours, so if you can free up a little more time, you may have a better chance of receiving offers. In your case, I recommend Patro, since you can discuss the terms of the arrangement in advance through messages after registering.

“Divorced mother” is a pretty tasteless self-introduction. “Housewife” means a woman who has a husband and takes care of the household. If she’s living with her parents as a dependent—in other words, unemployed—then that’s what she should say, right? If she has a job, she could say something like, “I’m a 33-year-old office worker with a child, so it’s difficult for me to meet at night. I’m divorced, so I don’t have a husband.” I understand wanting to quickly move on to an adult relationship (intimate), but that’s not something a woman should say herself. Whether she’s simply money-hungry and focused on value for money, or sexually frustrated, either way it doesn’t create a good impression. There’s no allure—or modesty. AN = all nude, I assume. I’d appreciate it if people just wrote “AN (all nude)” because I can’t be bothered to look it up, but maybe that would be gauche. Actually, why not just say “completely naked”? I recently parted ways with two women in their 30s whom I’d been seeing for four and six years. We enjoyed all kinds of things together, but I’m getting older and the way I have fun has changed. Still, I doubt I’ll go to men’s esthetic salons or sex clubs from now on either. AN isn’t exactly rare, and if that’s all I want, masturbation is enough. The good thing about dating, I think, is the tension of knowing that even though you’re paying, you could still be turned down. It’s not the satisfaction of being popular—it’s a more humble feeling. I just realized that one of the women I parted ways with was also 33, the same age as the questioner. This was her reply when I told her we should part ways: ↓ “Thank you for your thoughtful message. I’m the one who should be thanking you for everything you’ve done for me all this time ☺️ Actually, I had been thinking of making 33 a turning point too, so I’m truly glad I was able to tell you that I’d taken one final step toward achieving one of my dreams! Thank you for letting me graduate feeling so refreshed and fulfilled. (Excerpt) I’m remembering everything now, and I’m feeling a little lonely and like I might cry… 😢 I’m wishing you and all the girls I was fortunate enough to meet through you happiness in the future. I’ll do my best too!” I think this woman has a healthy perspective. I won’t enter into papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) relationships with women over 33. If I were to see one, it would be an ordinary relationship without a pay-per-meeting allowance. Of course, as a man from the Showa era, I’d express my affection in tangible ways—gifts and so on. But that wouldn’t be an allowance. I’m not saying, “Let me have sex for free.” I’m just saying, “Take away the handicap and let me compete on equal footing.” If that doesn’t work, I’ll simply give up. Though, come to think of it, I haven’t pursued women in ordinary settings like that for over ten years. That said, if I go to a swinging bar, women in their 40s sometimes make advances toward me. I always turn them down, saying I’m there as a couple because I bring a younger woman with me. If a woman’s appeal isn’t determined solely by her age, the same should be true for men. Women in their 30s are a little hard to read, but with women in their 40s—even though I’m in my 60s—I wonder if there are actually many who wouldn’t have sex with me if I seriously pursued them. Women in their teens and 20s would obviously find it creepy, though. I’ve pursued fewer than ten women in ordinary settings, but I’ve never been turned down when I asked to have sex. Then again, I only approach women I don’t think are likely to reject me. I have low self-esteem, but I probably have some kind of appeal that women see even though I don’t. I must have something going for me. Actually, this low self-esteem—this humility—is probably one of my appealing qualities in ordinary settings. Mr. Loser certainly doesn’t have that, haha. To get back to the question, if you rephrased it as a man, it would be like saying, “I’m broke, but I’m always rock-hard. Anyone want to have sex with me?” Of course that’s not going to work.

Since your terms are fairly specific, presenting them clearly and in an easy-to-understand way should reduce misunderstandings on both sides and make it easier for people who agree with them to reach out. Whether things continue will depend on how you respond.

I don’t think being 33 is a problem at all. That said, if you’re looking for a transactional relationship with an adult relationship (intimate) during the day for about two hours, adult entertainment may suit your needs better than a dating club. If it were me, I’d consider marketing myself as a premium companion available for short appointments. For example, if you can work just two hours a day, it might be interesting to find a venue that allows that kind of schedule and promote the exclusivity of your availability. Finding the right place may take some effort, but I think it could be worth trying. I hope you find a setting that suits you. I’m rooting for you. P.S. Mr. Makeotoko, There simply haven’t been any questions lately that I could answer! Please don’t forget me 🥹 The weather is truly wonderful. Perfect for a VR date ☺

Universe Club prohibits prostitution. When joining, I believe members are also asked to sign an agreement stating that they will not engage in prostitution. If a transactional relationship involving intimacy for about two hours during the day is considered prostitution, then I think you would be better off joining a service where prostitution is allowed. Universe Club is a place where consenting adults date each other, so it’s possible for things to develop into an adult relationship (intimate) while spending time together over meals. Because they’re adults, each person is free to decide how they want to proceed. Many men and women seem to misunderstand this, but that’s precisely why the first date arranged by the club is centered around having a meal. A Universe Club setup is essentially an arranged dinner date. After that, since both people are adults, they’re free to decide what kind of relationship they want. However, if someone does something the other person dislikes or deceives them, Universe Club will intervene as much as possible. That is the club’s stance. If you already understand that point, then there’s no issue with your age or terms themselves. Appearance is important, and personality is also taken properly into consideration.

If it’s strictly limited to around two hours, I wouldn’t make an offer. That feels more like a transactional relationship, and that’s not what I’m looking for.

As a 33-year-old divorced mother and homemaker, you would probably pass the membership screening. However, the interview also evaluates factors beyond those points, so it’s impossible to tell from your question alone whether you’ll be accepted. The same goes for offers from men. Everyone has different preferences, but generally speaking, limiting meetings to about two hours during the daytime will likely put you at a disadvantage.

It depends on the man’s age, but if you look good, you’ll probably still get offers. That said, some men may find it difficult given the circumstances if you’re only available for around two hours during the day.