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Oct 12, 2019 00:22
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He’s a nice person, but when we go on dinner-only dates, he doesn’t even cover my transportation costs (and hasn’t since our second meeting). Still, he tries to control me like I’m his girlfriend and messages me repeatedly every day…
I feel like I can’t end things because the situation is so complicated.
It’s a difficult problem, but what should I do?
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
I think Mac’s idea of keeping evidence is a good one.
When you tell him you want to end things, there’s a possibility he may say something to the agency. If you don’t have any evidence, you could be unfairly painted as the bad person and end up at a disadvantage.
You’ll probably be fine, but just to be safe, I think it’s best to keep plenty of evidence.
Ideally, you’ll be able to end things without having to use it.
That said, after securing the evidence, I think you should clearly communicate your own wishes—for example, that you’d like at least ¥10,000 even for dinner only (no intimacy).
Since men may view this as free-form dating, he might mistakenly think you’re okay with the arrangement as it is. I think it’s best to clearly state what you want before continuing the relationship.
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Sorry, I realize now that all these consecutive questions are from the same person.
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Since you both have something to lose, I think it’s fine to simply end things normally. Also, ignore the LINE messages and save any that come afterward. They could give you leverage if anything happens.