I thought the question below was an interesting one. She seems like a wonderful woman.

I felt that a man who understands a “sad-looking face” should answer a question like this, so I thought I’d write something. I think her sadness might be eased a little if she could put the man she’s seeing in a position where he feels confident and proud of the allowance he gives her. Fathers everywhere work hard to earn money and spend it on their families and daughters without feeling sad about it at all. If they feel that it comes back to them as family happiness, all they feel is pride and affection. I think it’s a good idea to clearly explain how you use your allowance. It’s even better if the money is used in a way that comes back to him somehow. It can be something small. For example, if you regularly go to a beauty salon, go the day before your date and say, “Don’t I look especially radiant today? I want you to see me at my most beautiful.” For men, two things are extremely important: feeling that there is a reason for giving allowance (even if that reason is made up), and feeling that it comes back to them in some form (even if it’s only an illusion). Small things are enough—thoughtful little gestures tend to stay with people more than saying things like, “Now I can pay my tuition,” or “I’m grateful that I can live in Tokyo.” Needless to say, you should absolutely hide Instagram posts showing off an enviable lifestyle—overseas trips, fine dining, designer goods, and so on. If your papa finds out that his allowance is being spent on those things, he’ll be displeased. There’s nothing wrong with spending it that way; hiding it is simply part of the etiquette of the relationship. Women often get themselves into trouble over this in the age of social media. There are various other classic ways to ease a papa’s sadness about money, such as “not accepting an allowance and having him pay the rent instead” (it works fairly well if you arrange it so he can claim it as a business expense through his company), or “paying for a restaurant dinner for papa on his birthday” (doing it once a year is enough to have an effect all year). But in the end, the greatest way to ease his feelings is your own “feelings.” Give him your heart. That’s what papa wants from you. 《I accept the allowance because I need it to live, but I want to make it clear that I’m not seeing him just for the money. What could a woman say that would make a man happy to hear?》