I’ve never done papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) before.
I suppose it depends on the messages we exchange and what happens when we actually go out for a meal, but are dinner-only (no intimacy) arrangements really a thing?
Dinner only (no intimacy) arrangements do exist.
However, once you say you’re only interested in dinner-only dates, the number of men willing to make an offer becomes very small. To receive one of those limited offers, you generally need something that sets you apart—such as being exceptionally attractive, highly educated, or having a prestigious career.
If you fit that profile, dinner only may work. Otherwise, it’s probably best to assume that offers may not come in.
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It exists, but if your friends saw you having dinner with a much older man, they’d never believe you even if you said, “It was just dinner.”
In that case, I think it’s definitely better to keep the first meeting brief over coffee, confirm the terms on LINE afterward, and discreetly move on to the adult relationship—you’d get a higher allowance, too.
If I were a woman, I’d never do papa-katsu without an adult relationship. The benefits are just too small.
And doing papa-katsu for dinner only isn’t exactly something to brag about. Papa-katsu is papa-katsu.
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Yes, that happens.
If the woman’s dating type is A or B, it’s almost certainly dinner only (no intimacy). Even with C or D, if both parties don’t agree to take things further that day, they simply part ways after dinner.
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