I think Maezawa-san’s answer is the best.
Don’t make up an excuse—clearly call it sexual harassment and help prevent anyone else from becoming a victim.
Last-minute cancellations aren’t good, but the sooner, the better. Turn him down right now.
You could cancel by saying you have plans with your sister, family, relatives, or work, then say your schedules don’t line up afterward and leave their messages on read…
Alternatively, cancel one to three days beforehand by saying you’re not feeling well…
I think it’s best to tell him directly.
In this case, something like:
“Receiving a message from you saying ●● made me feel sexually harassed, and I no longer wish to see you. I also feel that going on a long date would be difficult for me. Perhaps it might have been okay if we had gotten to know each other better, but I’m not comfortable with it right now. I won’t be able to go on our date on [date], and I won’t be able to meet you in the future either. I’m sorry.”
Also, since this was only around your second date, some men may give feedback to the club, so I think it would be better to get ahead of it and report it to the club yourself.
“Mr. XX was lovely when we first met. Thank you for introducing us.
He seemed like a nice person, so I was planning to meet him a second time. However, he sent me a message saying something like ‘*****,’ which made me feel sexually harassed. It made me feel that I probably wouldn’t be a good match with someone who sends messages like that.
He also wrote something like, ‘Please set aside X hours for our next date.’ That also felt different from what I had expected. Although I appreciate you introducing us, I’ve decided to decline the second date.
Perhaps I should have put up with it and gone on the date, but I’m sorry for turning it down.”
I feel it might be a good idea to send something along those lines.
That way, the staff may think, “We can’t exactly say the man was at fault, but the woman wasn’t at fault either. It can’t be helped. Still, since this was only their second date, he should have been more considerate…”
So even if the man complains about the woman, they’ll probably think, “That doesn’t sound right.”
