For those who are unhappy with their papa (a male supporter) but put up with it for the money... what kinds of things do you tolerate?

We don’t really go out together that often, but maybe it’s when we occasionally take a walk or go to a restaurant together? She seems perfectly comfortable when we’re out or at a restaurant, and I’m actually the one who feels self-conscious. But I’m not some handsome papa—I’m an old man—so sometimes I wonder how she really feels.

I feel the same way as Mack. You’re really coming on strong. Or are you actually in your twenties? Are you in your sixties, writing “lol” in hiragana? ☆ I’d probably say that I don’t make my partner feel that way, but… Can you read people’s minds? Please don’t jump to conclusions about everything.

papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is meant to relieve your frustrations and stress with society or your finances, right…? If you’re just meeting their financial demands, you’re probably forcing yourself to endure it. But if you can be yourself, you’ll probably feel more alive.

Since I pay a generous allowance, I find myself being even more considerate... I do everything I can. I worry about my physique more than women do, and I spend far more on grooming than the PJ girls ever could. Especially when it comes to smell. Of course I brush and floss before intimacy, but I also freshen up quickly before starting pillow talk. I don’t have any particular aversion to intimacy, but I’m fairly well-endowed, so I worry that it must be inconvenient for her... I end up worrying about everything to a pathological degree. I wonder if I’m putting too much of a burden on the women. In the end, maybe an allowance is really just compensation for the inconvenience. That’s why I’ve never even considered a pay-per-meeting allowance of 50,000 yen. I can’t help thinking, “I’m probably causing her much more trouble than that.” In that respect, women I meet outside the club are easier to be around. I still give them an allowance, but they have a more ordinary attitude, like, “Why are you giving me an allowance?” So I don’t feel as self-conscious as I do with PJ girls. I think the older men who have this strange pride about keeping allowances low should try meeting women outside dating clubs. Wouldn’t that be win-win? I honestly don’t understand why you’re in a dating club in the first place.

I feel that as long as they’re compromising rather than simply putting up with me, they’re still choosing to continue. I think the relationship gets cut off when that compromise turns into sheer endurance.