It’s usually dinner plus a hotel, but today I only had time for the hotel because of work and the limited train schedule home.
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(My papa lives nearby, while I live far away.)
I hadn’t eaten anything since lunch, and I was just sent home after doing it twice… I’m honestly angry. If we hadn’t done it a second time, we could have at least had a light drink or something to eat.
Would it be okay to tell my papa how I feel?
Or, if I want to continue this relationship, should I just keep quiet and put up with it?
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You could have just laughed it off and said something like:
“I’m hungry~”
“I’m so hungry I feel like I’m about to pass out.”
Then, based on his reaction and how he responded, you could decide what to do next.
As everyone’s saying, it seems important to gently speak up about anything you don’t like right then and there.
If you let it slide once, it’ll become the default.
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I think it would be fine either to explain it the way Aya suggested or to end things, as Seattle suggested.
When I’m short on time, I don’t just go to a hotel, and I usually drive them or send a taxi, so I’ve never found myself in that kind of situation.
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I also often meet one of the women I’m seeing late, usually meeting at a hotel without dinner first.
But she’s never particularly complained about it.
Maybe it’s because I never ask for a second round, and afterward I enjoy the sake and cake chilled in the hotel fridge…
I can’t say what will happen if you tell him how you feel—it really depends on that papa (a male supporter).
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Hmm… Depending on the relationship, there may be times when the man’s desires take priority.
First, let me say that I don’t claim to be particularly sophisticated in my relationships, but I’d always ask, “Aren’t you hungry?” If she said, “I’m starving,” I’d feel bad about it—I couldn’t bring myself to take off her underwear or ask her to take mine off.
By Joe’s standards, I can only conclude that the person asking this question is being taken for granted. You may have to put up with things occasionally to achieve your goal, but let’s make sure you’re only being “taken for granted” down there! With all due respect, I’m also sending you an encouraging message: stand up for yourself!
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The moment you meet, say, “Feed me!”
No, no—“I haven’t eaten anything. I’m starving~” You should say that first thing…
But then they might decide to take it slow and just have dinner today…
Since it could end up being just a hotel, I guess he’s hoping for an adult allowance…
So which is better: no second round and just a leisurely dinner (with no adult allowance), or just going to a hotel for a second round…?
I wonder…
If I bought something beforehand, we might be able to eat too…
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It’s better to express how you feel instead of keeping it bottled up.
As for how to say it, take Aya’s answer as a guide and go with a soft touch! (lol)
P.S.
You had plenty of chances—on the way to the hotel right after meeting, immediately after going in, or after round one—but... Next time, don’t hold back and say what you want.
Didn’t he realize you’d gone home still hungry?
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A two-round guy who only takes you out to dinner and can’t read the room—that’s a papa (a male supporter) to avoid.
If you’re not struggling financially, drop him if the allowance is too low.
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Instead of bluntly saying, “I didn’t want to go for a second round,” you could phrase it more gently, like, “Next time, I’d like to have dinner too.”
Rather than bottling things up until you suddenly blow up, it’s better for the relationship in the long run to express your concerns as they come up.
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It probably depends on the person, but I think you should’ve just said something.
I’m surprised by how socially awkward you were—you could’ve simply told them you hadn’t had lunch.
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