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May 3, 2019 01:16
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Maezawa here as well.
You might notice signs that a woman is about to leave if you meet with her in person regularly, but basically, we only communicate by email or LINE, so women sometimes leave without showing almost any signs.
Most of the time, I feel they start wanting to leave after going on a date with a bad man.
Recently, for example, I received a message from a woman who had gone on a date with a man she herself had requested and had completely lost her confidence.
Apparently, he told her things like:
“You’re much too thin compared with your photos.”
“You weren’t wearing earrings in your photos, so why are you wearing them now? This is a scam.”
“Show me what’s inside your bag.”
“Tell me your surname from when you were married.”
“I won’t pay a woman who won’t tell me her real name.”
“You must have read my profile before coming, so next time we’re playing tennis. Even if you’ve never played before, you’ll stay at my house and play tennis.”
She decided he was frightening and wanted to leave, but because she had requested him herself, she felt she was somehow forced to continue seeing him afterward. He had been aggressive from the very beginning, and she refused him several times along the way.
She also saw him rummaging through her bag while she was in the shower, through the frosted glass. In the end, she refused to continue and tried to escape, but he apparently wouldn’t let her leave easily.
He was very fixated on money, refusing to pay even her transportation expenses and demanding that the introduction fee be refunded. He had also printed out my profile and given it to her, which made her worry that it might be distributed somewhere.
When I hear things like this, I find myself wondering why the facts weren’t checked. Perhaps they prefer to avoid making trouble, or perhaps they didn’t have the woman’s permission—I’m not sure.
If what she says is true, though, he sounds like the kind of man who would normally make a woman want to leave the club.
Of course, when we ask the man, he often starts badmouthing the woman, and then we end up not knowing which side is telling the truth.
Even so, it’s hard to believe women would report things that never happened, so I can’t help thinking the men must have done something as well.
This is just one example, but when incidents like this occur, some women leave without saying anything to us.
Then, because it happens so suddenly, we sometimes hear from women who say they want to leave without having shown any particular signs.
> Her dating type becomes more cautious
This can also be a sign. For example, after a date, if a woman encounters a man who pressures her quite aggressively and says things like:
“If you won’t continue seeing me after dinner, then your dating type is a scam. I’ll report you to the club. Are you okay with being called a fraud?”
she may change her dating type from C to B.
For reference, Dating Type C means she is open to continuing seeing a man after dinner about 50% of the time. So even if a woman with Type C declines, it does not constitute fraud.
If she feels she cannot see the man she went on a date with, she is perfectly free to turn him down.
However, the club does receive feedback. If she declines all three men after going on three dates, or declines three out of four men after four dates, that is far from 50%, so the club may point out that her dating type is inaccurate.