I’m meeting a creepy old man in his 60s, but I’m really not looking forward to it. I won’t cancel because we already made plans, but I want to lift my spirits so I can meet this creepy man with a smile. When you’re having a hard time or have something you really don’t want to do coming up, how do you strengthen your mindset and get through it?
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*Out of all my other papas, this one is by far the creepiest, but I chose him myself, and I can probably put up with him better than I could with working in the sex industry.
So advice like “Then go work in the sex industry” or “You shouldn’t have to put up with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)” isn’t going to resonate with me.
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Without limiting this to papa-katsu, when something difficult or something you don’t want to do is right in front of you, my answer is:
“Clear your mind and just get it done.”
But if you approached papa-katsu that way, that would be a deal-breaker. I couldn’t be with someone who thinks like that.
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It’s a pretty common thing at work, isn’t it? You might want to read something like “If It Isn’t Depressing, It Isn’t Work” (Toru Kenjo and Susumu Fujita). I haven’t read it myself, though.
Speaking from my own experience, it’s important to make an effort to find the other person’s good qualities, remind yourself that this experience—and the hardship—will become nourishment for your life, and, finally, get a little intoxicated by your own ability to face difficult circumstances. In short, you need to find a positive context and brainwash yourself with it.
I think “put up with it, then blow off steam” is a loser’s mindset. In my experience, capable people don’t look at reality in quite the ordinary way, so they don’t despair. It’s almost like a religion—or self-brainwashing. Build that kind of mechanism into yourself. Once you can do that, you’ll be invincible.
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In papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), both men and women are supposed to enjoy a more luxurious lifestyle.
What’s the point of putting yourself through pain?
It’s not worth the allowance…
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Since this was the path you chose for yourself, I’m not going to tell you to work in the adult entertainment industry or say that papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) is something you should just endure.
But personally, I wouldn’t do anything I truly didn’t want to do.
And whenever I decide to do something, I make sure to find something enjoyable about it and move forward.
Doing something reluctantly won’t produce anything positive.
This isn’t something you overcome by simply toughening up mentally.
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Advice like “Then go to a sex-work establishment” or “P-katsu isn’t something you should have to endure” probably won’t resonate with you.
It sounds like you’ve already arrived at your own answer. But since you asked for a different perspective…
Try looking hard for the good points, telling yourself, “I chose this, so there must be something worthwhile about it!” Focus on those. If that happens to be the allowance, then you’ll just have to work hard and complete this mission so you can receive it.
Have some delicious meals and get plenty of sleep to recover from your exhaustion. You’ve got this!!
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If you absolutely have to meet him, the only way may be to treat it like work and remind yourself, “I’m dealing with a customer, so I must remain polite.”
I feel like you have to think of it as enduring something unpleasant in exchange for receiving a generous allowance.
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