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Mar 17, 2022 21:56
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I’m a Black-class woman. (The man told me my class even though I hadn’t asked.)
I currently have three ongoing arrangements: two men give me an allowance of 100,000 yen, and one gives me 150,000 yen.
I generally accept whatever allowance the men offer, and I’m aware that I’m receiving more than enough. I’m truly grateful to all three of them.
Today, I met a man who had made a new offer.
I’m a Type C, so the subject of the allowance came up during our first meeting, and he offered 20,000 yen for an adult relationship (intimate).
I compared it to what my three current partners give me and told him I would like a little more. He said, “I can do 30,000 yen if you’re okay with no protection, or 25,000 yen if that’s too difficult. I’d also like to have deep kisses, if possible. That’s the allowance I usually offer.”
I felt that our values didn’t match, so I declined.
Of course, it’s possible that he deliberately offered such a low allowance because he decided I wasn’t worth the going rate of 50,000 yen, hoping he could at least get lucky once.
Still, I was honestly taken aback by being offered an allowance more typical of a dating app, and surprised that even a Black-class male member of Universe would behave this way.
When I turned him down, he visibly looked displeased and said, “Oh… I guess not.” I accepted only 5,000 yen for transportation and left.
I’ve never had a man complain about me before. Today, too, I wasn’t late, and I made an effort to be considerate and keep the conversation comfortable for him.
However, I had a very poor impression of this man and honestly felt uncomfortable.
But this doesn’t qualify as a complaint, does it? I did receive transportation money, after all.
The men who have made offers to me have always suggested 100,000 yen or more, so this was extremely shocking. It made me wonder if 20,000 yen for an adult relationship (30,000 yen without protection) is actually my true worth…
I’m angry enough to want to report him to the club, but he didn’t technically violate any rules (though he certainly wasn’t a gentleman), and I don’t know where to direct these feelings, so I decided to ask here.
7 answers
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I think it would be best for you to continue seeing those three people.
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Age: 50s
👨 Male
Universe member
Even rich men can be stingy.
It really comes down to whether you’re comfortable with the amount the man is offering. So it’s not necessarily a reflection of your “rank.” He may simply be offering that same amount to everyone he contacts.
Be grateful that things have gone well for you so far, but as long as your profile remains posted, there will be papas who approach you with a lower offer.
You can turn them down each time you receive an offer. If you don’t want to do that, consider taking a break or leaving the service.
綾瀬なな
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Other
He was probably an extremely poor man who came from an app.
He simply didn’t know your worth—or much about the world in general. Why not mention it to the staff for now? Tell them that it made you worry whether that was really all you were worth.
Even if the man leaves negative feedback, I don’t think the staff will let it affect your rating once they understand what happened.
I’ve met someone like that too. It makes you wonder, “What am I worth?” Once you’ve reported it, try to forget about him.
茉莉花
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There’s no point in worrying about that. It’s not a reflection of your worth—it’s simply that man’s personal values.
Marika
フラグメーカー
Male
Column
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出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
Wait, why did you think it was okay to take that out on me here? lol
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I don’t think there’s any such thing as objective value.
At most, there’s only the value that particular man places on you subjectively. And even that isn’t really your value—it’s merely the value he sees in having sex with you that day.
So I don’t think there’s much point in dwelling on it.
りん
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Other
I never met anyone like that—or rather, we just didn’t click—so I’ve erased him from my memory. And as for “without protection”… that makes no sense to me.
I understand that your allowance isn’t a reflection of your worth, but I also think it’s only natural to feel that way sometimes. There are all kinds of men and women with different values, so if you’re seeing someone who suits you, isn’t that all that matters?