Growing up constantly being told to watch other people’s moods and act accordingly, I’ve become overly conscious of how others feel. Now I struggle to speak carefully without worrying about being disliked or to express my true feelings.

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On top of that, I’m not good at communicating, I’m awkward at speaking, and I lack confidence, so sometimes I can’t clearly express myself to others. I tried working in the nightlife industry to build my confidence, but I didn’t grow at all—in fact, I only ended up losing even more confidence. How do you think I can change? I want to say goodbye to my weak self.

Answer 1

Hmm, I think the only way is to start with small, manageable challenges. If you’re not comfortable talking to older people, start by talking to younger people. If you’re nervous around the opposite sex, start by talking to people of the same sex. By overcoming these small hurdles one at a time, you’ll eventually be able to overcome what you struggle with.

Answer 2

Why did I ever work in the nightlife industry… Try working in sales. I did it recently too, and even someone as talkative as me found it a little mentally draining.

Answer 3

Read a book on assertiveness and learn from it. Then, practice little by little.

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