This is the complete opposite of the previous question. I can’t do three dinner-only dates. If he doesn’t bring up the terms at the end of the first meeting or invite me out again for a second, I start thinking, “Wait, am I not attractive?” Spending time over dinner only again and again feels like we’re probing each other, and it makes me restless and uncomfortable.

> Type B is tricky, isn’t it? Honestly, I feel like it would be easier to just choose Type C. Though I suppose you could write in your comment that you’d like to get intimate on the second date, so you’re more of a Type B. Actually, maybe it’s the other way around. You could stay with Type B and write: “I don’t want to have dinner three times. Please be sure to invite me to an adult relationship on the second date.”

When a woman asks questions, that’s a good sign, so I think you’ll find it more encouraging than simply knowing she’s experienced. Regardless of the type, I bring up the terms myself during the first meeting. Even with an A-type woman, I tell her that if things progress, the allowance will be 50,000 yen per pay-per-meeting.

I believe the real dinner date in papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) begins after you’ve discussed the allowance, so I bring it up within 15 minutes of meeting. Sometimes it’s within five minutes—in fact, that’s usually the case. I’ve done things this way dozens of times, and it doesn’t ruin the mood. If anything, discussing the allowance is what shifts things into a more serious mood, and the conversation becomes livelier. It’s only natural. The allowance is the most important thing to her. If she’s a Type B, I clearly tell her before we part, “Next time, I’ll invite you to a room after dinner.” I don’t sugarcoat it even a little. I throw a straight fastball right down the middle. I don’t say, “Let’s just have dinner again next time,” either. I’ve never once been turned down for an adult relationship (intimate). It’s always a man’s job to risk embarrassment, and men are the ones who should take the lead.

Personally, I think it’s a major mistake on the man’s part if the woman has to bring up the allowance herself. However, some men don’t approve of discussing the allowance in advance. So I suppose it depends on the individual. If you ask whether he’ll think she’s experienced or inexperienced, I feel he’s more likely to assume she’s experienced. That said, he may also get the impression from the overall vibe that she’s asking because she’s not used to this.