Mr. Loser,
> I haven’t been welcomed by any of the previous answerers at all, lol.
Huh? You’re actually very welcome among the previous answerers.
There are points we have in common, as well as opinions that are completely opposite.
I think having contrasts and a variety of opinions is a good thing—the more perspectives there are, the more readers can find something that resonates with their own views.
It’s not about social service or anything like that—it’s simply a personal preference.
Also, I want to move up to the next level as a papa, so I’m taking action first and basically conditioning myself.
It’s not like I hand over an adult allowance on dinner dates without any inner conflict. I often think, “I really want to, but it feels like a bit of a waste.” Still, I grit my teeth and put up with it.
And if you keep doing that, you gradually get used to it, so it’s become much easier for me.
Also, business has simply been going well, so money has lost some of its value to me. Even handing over 100,000 yen for dinner doesn’t stir me up as much anymore.
I’m not in a business with the ups and downs or gambling element of investing. I run a very stable business, and I can already see the profits a few years ahead. So I suppose that gives me an unfair advantage, haha.
Now, to answer the question.
Basically, I pay roughly two allowances in advance. Then, after rescheduling once or twice, I say:
“I’ll contact you when I’m available for our next date.”
After that, I gradually reduce how often I contact her.
Since she has already received the equivalent of two adult allowances—sometimes even three—she starts thinking, “I suppose continuing without an adult relationship might be an option, right?” That lowers her motivation to contact me, and I often just fade out from there.
I communicate by SMS or email, so there are no read receipts. In that sense, I may be in an environment where fading out is relatively easy.
Personally, I think what you shouldn’t do is wait until the advance payment has been used up before trying to fade out and end things.
If she can’t meet you, she can’t receive her allowance, so naturally she’ll get anxious and contact you. That would be too cruel, so I often give her at least two adult allowances in advance—almost like severance pay—and then aim to fade out.
Despite being nothing more than a poor man’s Munemune Suzuki, I’ve never been dumped by a woman. Still, I often think how much easier it would be if they were the ones to end things.
And I fully understand that there are always women who will get irritated after reading this answer.
I don’t pander to the masses. There’s no dating style that everyone can agree on, and I understand that some people will be hurt.
But it’s also true that some people will be helped. So I’m not going to tailor my actions or answers to the lowest common denominator. I don’t care if I attract a huge number of haters, and insults don’t bother me.
In fact, if nobody criticizes me, that means I’m pandering to the masses, so I actually want people to criticize me. I’m the type who prefers to clearly distinguish between friends and enemies.
P.S.
Mac, I’m a highly trained ○○○○♡
P.P.S.
Kamihikoki, I think we’re kindred spirits when it comes to thoroughly satisfying women. That said, I’m quite the coward for using the “violence” of a high allowance to do it (◎_◎;)
