I received an offer from someone in his 70s—what would be a reasonable amount for the date?
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I’ve only ever met men up to 58, so I’m a little nervous.
No matter how much he says he looks young for his age, he’ll still look his age, and I’m worried he may have that older-man smell.
I’d like to hear from other women.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I think you should meet him first and decide after seeing him in person.
You may have heard that he looks young, but if you meet him and feel that he actually looks his age, then I think it’s fine to adjust your desired allowance at that point.
However, if you feel you can’t go through with it unless the allowance is higher, then personally, I’d rather you simply turn me down.
Put yourself in the other person’s shoes: wouldn’t you dislike being told, “I can pay you an allowance of 80,000 yen because you’re in your 20s, but only 50,000 yen if you were in your 30s, and 30,000 yen if you were in your 40s”?
That’s why I don’t change the allowance based on age. If I feel I can’t continue unless the allowance is lowered, I simply part ways.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
If he’s considerably older, I’d say at least 80,000 yen. When I think of men in their 50s who give 110,000 yen, I feel there’s something to be said for showing generosity appropriate to one’s age.
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I’m Nana Ayase☆
Are you asking whether the date is dinner only or an adult relationship (intimate)? If it’s dinner only, I’d say 10,000 yen. As for an adult relationship, that depends on the man’s values, so you should simply tell him what you want.
If you’re not comfortable with that, I think it’s best to start with a B-type arrangement.
With C type, you can still turn it down, but some men seem to assume that C-type women will never refuse. You wouldn’t want him to get furious and leave you a bad review, right?
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I don’t make decisions based on age alone.
People in that age group vary enormously—from those who still look incredibly sharp and active to those who seem to need full-time care. Of course, you probably won’t find anyone in that condition at a club.
Generally speaking, people around their 70s tend to be kind and flexible with their time. If the allowance is enough to make meeting about once a month stress-free, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with continuing the arrangement.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
That’s a good question.
In your case, why not start by agreeing on an allowance for a dinner date? After that, as Mac said, I think it comes down to whether you personally feel comfortable with it.
For now, I think it would be fine to meet him once. As for any adult relationship (intimate) beyond that, you can decide afterward.
Regarding the allowance, if you decide to continue seeing him, I think you should simply tell him what you’re hoping for. There’s no fixed market rate—the most important thing is that both parties agree.
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