When you meet dozens of women doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), don't you occasionally come across a small number who genuinely see you as nothing more than money? Or is it just me?
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Recently, there was one such woman. She was attractive and friendly, so at first I almost let myself be fooled, but she was basically uninterested in me and very calculating. No matter how many times we met, I felt like I could never see her true feelings, and little by little, it started to feel unsettling.
I often see mean-spirited women posting complaints and grievances about men on Q&A sites, but these women seem even worse—or even frightening. Since they have no interest in me, I feel like they probably wouldn't even bother to complain...
I’m Fuu, a column writer.
What do you think?
One of the girls in my monthly arrangements probably sees me mainly as money.
Even from a financial perspective, though, she’s attentive and friendly. She looks like one of those Minato Ward socialites, and I think she has plenty of experience.
Sometimes I even wonder how she’s continued seeing me for this long.
I feel like she couldn’t be this good if she weren’t viewing me as a source of money. She’s very skilled and knows how to please a man. Truly excellent.
I really dislike the nasty people on the Q&A board who do nothing but complain and vent. But if the satisfaction level is as high as it is with my current monthly partner, who sees me as money, I’m perfectly fine with it.
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I’m Aya, a female member.
What do you actually have to offer women? Can you provide time that’s genuinely enjoyable and helps them grow? Aren’t you under the illusion that you can compare dozens or even hundreds of women from a godlike perspective, picking and playing with whoever you want?
I can’t say women are never at fault, but the moment you start papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), your credibility as a man is already starting in the negative. Making up for that takes a considerable amount of effort, doesn’t it? Women in papa-katsu also put a great deal of thought into opening up to men. That’s how enjoyable relationships are built.
Try putting in a little effort yourself, then ask again.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Hmm… I’m not sure how to put it.
To begin with, I think women are incredibly complicated creatures.
Even when I get to know women I meet here, they’re often not all that difficult to deal with. I think the allowance has something to do with that.
So, from my perspective, I can’t really know what any of them truly think. Every single one of them is definitely forcing themselves to some extent.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
We’re both being calculating, and I think it’s only natural that we start out without any real emotional attachment. On the other hand, when a woman hides her ulterior motives and starts pushing emotions from the very beginning, it feels so off-putting to me—like watching a poorly trained hostess—so I won’t see her again.
I believe genuine interest is something you draw out of each other. Emotions can outweigh ulterior motives and those motives can fade only after you’ve built a relationship through dating.
That said, women who keep their hearts completely closed off and treat the relationship like little more than prostitution don’t give me much to work with either. Unless the sex is exceptionally good, it won’t last.
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