Female members can send reverse offers to male respondents they like by emailing the administrator to express their interest. Male members can learn which female members are interested in them by answering questions and sharing their opinions.
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📅 Feb 21, 2019 12:28
Where can I find information about updates to the members-only site? I’m a male Gold member, and I’m happy to see so many updates lately. Also, could you tell me the general schedule for future updates? Is it true that starting in April, female members will be able to view male members’ profiles and send likes?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here with an answer.
There was still a programmer around, so I asked them.
(They looked exhausted from working overtime ＞＜)
“When you say the recent update, are you referring to private photos?
Until now, they were limited to Black and Platinum members, but we recently opened access to Gold and Standard members as well.”
“The feature that allows female members to search male members’ profiles and send likes is scheduled for around mid-March.”
That’s what I was tol…
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📅 Feb 20, 2019 23:04
I went in for the interview. I assume I wasn’t selected since I haven’t heard back, but… I traveled quite a distance and was planning to change into the outfit there. However, it seems they had another appointment packed in right after, so I was photographed in the clothes I arrived in. They seemed busy, but if there wasn’t enough time to change, I should have just worn the outfit there and put up with the cold…
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
Did you bring an outfit with you? If so, I’m sorry about that.
It’s also possible that the staff simply didn’t notice you had brought one. Even if they’re busy, changing clothes is perfectly fine as long as you can do it quickly.
I really wish you had found the courage to ask, “I brought an outfit with me. Would it be okay if I changed?”
However, if changing takes a long time—or if you also need to do your makeup and hair—it can become a problem when the nex…
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📅 Feb 20, 2019 20:51
Sorry if this is a basic question, but what exactly happens with a “setting”? Does it mean deciding the date, time, and place to meet? If so, how do you identify the other person?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa answers.
> So, does that mean you can decide the date, time, and meeting place?
That’s right.
However, it isn’t considered a setting unless you actually meet, so the setting is completed when the male and female members meet in person.
> How do you identify the person you’re meeting?
If you come in to register, we’ll explain everything at that time.
For women, you call the man from the meeting place and use that to find him.
For men, you can view the women’s p…
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📅 Feb 19, 2019 12:10
My husband was a blacklisted member. Why did he laugh when his wife cried after finding out? We were on the top floor of a high-rise apartment. I had climbed completely over the balcony railing and was about to fall if I let go, while the children stared at me. When I screamed through my sobs, “I’m going to die,” why did my husband calmly boil pasta for lunch, turning his back to me without saying a word or even glancing over? Was it be...
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
As others have said, I also think you may be better off getting a divorce.
Of course, it’s not something I can say lightly...
Once you’re gone, nothing remains. Seeking revenge that way would be far too great a price for your wife herself to pay.
Let’s stay calm and talk things through.
Also, since the top floor of a skyscraper isn’t suitable for raising children, perhaps you could put that property to work and live somewhere lower down—at a l…
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📅 Feb 19, 2019 12:07
I strongly oppose the condom proposal by Representative Kida, who claims he doesn’t wear condoms himself while suddenly calling them good manners. I believe this is a design flaw that would take away one of the few comparative advantages held by female members in their 40s and older. Please return to the true meaning of “free love = personal responsibility,” which is what makes a dating club a dating club. Don’t turn society into a mess...
💬 Answer from 木田（社長）:
Kida, the representative, will answer this one.
Hey, Maezawa! Apologize!
Someone took the trouble to ask such a great question—one that could really boost the page views—and you responded with a downright negative answer!
Wait a minute, Maezawa… are you a no-condom guy?
I apologize on Maezawa’s behalf.
I love discussions about condoms, so please keep those outrageous questions coming.
Mr. Saito’s and Joe’s answers are both outstanding, leaving absolutely no room for me to…
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📅 Feb 18, 2019 19:39
Embarrassingly, before joining the club, I had never dated multiple women at the same time. I assumed being devoted to one woman was best, but now that I’ve tried dating multiple women, I’ve found it not only interesting, but also a great way to better appreciate what makes each woman special. Apparently, it also gives me a certain aura—confidence, perhaps—and I’ve been becoming more and more popular with women. These days, I fancy myse...
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
From a man’s perspective, I completely agree with you.
On the other hand, I also think it’s perfectly fine for some men to prefer focusing on just one woman.
There are many different ways for men to think about relationships.
As for the aura you mentioned, it may partly come from
“being accustomed to interacting with many beautiful women.”
By interacting with various women at the same time, a man may move from thinking,
“Women ar…
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📅 Feb 18, 2019 19:22
I assume women pursue these arrangements while keeping in mind that they may eventually cut ties with their papas, but do male members also date women while thinking ahead about when they might drop them? I’m inexperienced, so I always end up getting pretty seriously attached…
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
Column writer Saito here♪
You’re a female member, right...?
Speaking only for myself, I keep the possibility of a breakup in mind from the moment I meet someone.
(That doesn’t necessarily mean I can always feel grateful whether I’m the one ending things or being dumped, though... lol)
If you’re genuinely in love, I don’t think there’s any need to use a dating club.
When real feelings are involved, things can easily turn into a mess when you break up... The risk…
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📅 Feb 18, 2019 05:19
A woman I recently made an offer to tried to recruit me into a pyramid scheme. The arrangement never progressed at all, and for three hours she went on and on about quitting my job and making more money through an online business. Naturally, I filed a complaint with the club, but they told me the offer fee would not be refunded. If anyone has experienced a similar case where a refund should have been issued but wasn’t, please let me kno...
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, a columnist♪
I’d like to meet that woman too.
She sounds interesting.
Though I might send her home within an hour or so…
Still, seeing how Universe and Maezawa handled things, maybe she isn’t a repeat offender after all.
(If there had been a string of complaints, she would’ve been banned, right?)
If she’s not a repeat offender, introduce me to her too（笑）
Maybe I’ll try selling her some urns in return…
↑ That idea is so Showa-era…
It reminded me of a ti…
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📅 Feb 17, 2019 12:47
How much time do staff spend registering female members? It seems like quite a lot of work, from scheduling the interview and conducting it to creating their profile and entering them into the system.
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
The amount of time spent on each registration probably varies by branch. In Tokyo, it’s not unusual for one staff member to interview around six people a day.
If that happens every day, they need to register six people daily; otherwise, the number of unregistered applicants keeps piling up. Six one-hour interviews means six hours, leaving only two hours to register those six people.
So they can’t spend much time on each individual registration.
At regional b…
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📅 Feb 17, 2019 12:46
If I move, can I change my registered location?
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here with an answer.
If you move, you can change your registered location.
Please contact the branch where you registered.
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📅 Feb 17, 2019 10:43
Something that came up in a discussion has been on my mind. Of course, diseases are frightening, but if she became pregnant and said, “I want to have the baby,” what would you do? (Assuming she may have relationships with multiple papas.)
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
I assume that having unprotected sex means you’d be happy if a pregnancy resulted. If that’s not the case, why have unprotected sex?
Taking “unprotected sex = I’d be happy if a child resulted” as the premise, it seems natural to say, “Please have the baby.”
Even if she’s suspected of being involved with multiple papas, a paternity test after the baby is born would establish the truth. You’d know whether you were the father.
I think women tell that particular…
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📅 Feb 17, 2019 10:24
I’m a male member who loves brutally honest answers. A slightly wealthy older guy: “I may not be popular, but my wallet is!” A cute woman: “If you want to sleep with someone as beautiful as me, pay up!” Taking that as the bare minimum, please share some of the more nuanced and enjoyable ways to approach this.
💬 Answer from ジョー・ルビコン:
I’m Joe, a column writer.
I believe I understand how you feel. I, too, have been wandering in search of a certain “flavor,” and I’d like to share two memorable experiences I’ve had recently.
**The first**
I had promised to take a long-time female companion, A, on a trip—it would have been our third. Once the itinerary was set, I contacted her, only to receive this reply:
“Joe, I can’t go on the upcoming trip. I’m getting married soon, and I feel uncomfortable going on a t…
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📅 Feb 17, 2019 09:16
I always enjoy reading this anonymous Q&A. I love it so much that I wanted to take part myself. I’m a male member in my 40s from outside a major city (I’ve only been a member for a few months). Personally, rather than casual papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), I’m seriously looking for a mistress, so I’d like to retire from the club as soon as I find her. Out of 100 people, all 100 would generally consider having a mistress a bad ...
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito, a column writer♪
Nice to meet you.
I’m also a male member in my 40s from outside a major city.
We have that in common.
Reading Leaf-san’s comment about being in a long-term arrangement for over a year put me at ease. Haha.
As for how I judge whether something is long-term, I’ve simply continued seeing her for so long that it feels like I’m doing it out of habit—or inertia, perhaps.
At this point, we’re practically like family, and I even know her family …
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📅 Feb 16, 2019 10:54
Have you ever given ¥50,000, ¥100,000, or even ¥1,000,000 per meeting to a woman for dinner only, with no physical relationship—ever and going forward? If so, what was it about her that made her so appealing or valuable to you? Personally, I’ve met all kinds of women—Black, Secret, models, celebrities, and so on—but I’ve never met anyone I felt was worth paying more than transportation expenses for dinner only... I do think it’s unfair ...
💬 Answer from 斉藤さんだぞ♪:
I’m Saito♪, a columnist and an active male member.
Thank you for requesting me, Nonta. Haha.
Personally, I’m looking for an adult relationship (intimate), so I don’t meet women who only want tea or coffee…
I’ve been caught by things like the “I’ll do it, I’ll do it” scam and the “I got my period beforehand” scam, but for now, I uniformly give them 20,000 yen plus an Uber ride home within 90 minutes.
The only reason I add the extra is because I often hear that other men gi…
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📅 Feb 16, 2019 09:55
I’m a female member. Why can we only enter our availability for three weeks when we’re told to fill in the calendar? Couldn’t it at least allow us to enter availability through next month? (As of now, that would be through March 31.)
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
This is Maezawa from the staff.
I checked with the programmer, and they said:
“We set it to around three weeks because we were concerned that if people could enter their availability too far in advance, their plans would be more likely to change—and they might not update the calendar afterward.”
That does seem to be happening already. A growing number of people aren’t updating their calendars, so some men appear to be a little disappointed after making an offer because the…
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📅 Feb 16, 2019 02:53
Is the number of likes on a woman’s private photos proportional to the number of actual arrangements she gets? Since they won’t tell me how many favorites or arrangements someone has even when I inquire, I had assumed that the number of likes was a rough indicator—and that more likes generally led to more arrangements. But the woman I met the other day had almost a two-digit number of likes, yet insisted that this was only her second ar...
💬 Answer from 前澤（スタッフ）:
Maezawa here.
The number of likes on a woman’s private photos isn’t proportional to the actual number of dates she’s had.
For example, even if someone has 10 likes, she may have had 20 dates—or only 5.
Also, likes are counted separately for each photo. So even if five photos have two likes each, for a total of 10, it’s possible that only two men actually liked them.
That’s why I think it’s difficult to make assumptions based on the number of likes.
Originally, we also ch…
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📅 Feb 15, 2019 21:22
I was the one who asked whether you could share the number of members at each branch. I was told it was meaningless, which made me feel sad, but then some male members asked follow-up questions like, “Isn’t it okay to ask about things you’re curious about?” I wasn’t sure what to do, but I decided to register! It made me think there might be some kind men there. And fortunately, I’ve already received some offers. In my case, I asked abou...
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📅 Feb 15, 2019 12:55
I’m going on a trip with the man I’m seeing, but I’m worried about whether he’ll give me an allowance. In situations like this, how much do people usually receive—or do they not receive anything at all?
💬 Answer from ジョー・ルビコン:
I’m Joe, a column writer and male member.
This topic has come up several times before, so please refer to those discussions as well.
As for whether an allowance is paid for a trip, I think it depends on the relationship. However, as Maezawa-san pointed out, many men generally feel that the cost of the trip itself already covers everything, and don’t intend to pay a separate allowance.
From the way you phrased your question, I get the impression that you feel you should rec…
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📅 Feb 15, 2019 12:22
I’m a female member who looks forward to checking this site every day. But I was thinking it would be even more exciting if there were a monthly calendar or map of Japan showing, in real time—or at least for today—how many pairs are currently on their first meeting, how many people are arranging dates, and how many dates are scheduled within the next few days (or within a week), preferably broken down by region. Since the site seems to ...
💬 Answer from 木田（社長）:
I’ll have our representative, Kida, answer as well.
It’s a bit of a demanding request, but it’s an excellent suggestion. We’ll do our best to implement it someday.
With the mentions of WordPress, above-the-fold content, and plugins…
Are you perhaps in IT—or in the same industry? (Haha)
At present, we manage date-setting coordination on a cloud server using Microsoft Access as the front end, rather than through the web.
Since we compile confirmed date information and send…
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📅 Feb 15, 2019 09:04
I’m a female member. Thank you as always for your support. I’ve gone on dates with several people, but when it comes to adult relationships (intimate), most of them don’t even try to use condoms. I think using a condom is basic etiquette and only natural. Even though I never said, “You don’t have to use one,” they try to do it without one, so I always have to ask them partway through, “Please put one on.” I’d like all the male members t...
💬 Answer from 木田（社長）:
I, Kida, the club’s representative, would also like to respond.
I’m very sorry that our club’s communication has fallen short and caused you disappointment.
First of all, wearing a condom is basic etiquette—it should go without saying.
Although I don’t wear one myself.
I’m thinking of sending the following email to all members:
Subject: Regarding the Use of Contraceptives
Body:
Thank you, as always, for your continued support.
We have received complaints from female …