I’m Joe, a column writer.
I believe I understand how you feel. I, too, have been wandering in search of a certain “flavor,” and I’d like to share two memorable experiences I’ve had recently.
**The first**
I had promised to take a long-time female companion, A, on a trip—it would have been our third. Once the itinerary was set, I contacted her, only to receive this reply:
“Joe, I can’t go on the upcoming trip. I’m getting married soon, and I feel uncomfortable going on a trip with another man.”
I found a certain flavor in both her sudden confession and her belated sense of discomfort. (苦笑)
**The second**
After going to see a kabuki performance with B, we were having dinner. We exchanged our thoughts on the day’s performance, and while discussing the actors’ vocal projection, she suddenly said:
“Joe, wouldn’t you like to hear me let out a huge scream?”
Of course, I would have loved to. However, in my case, I had absolutely no confidence that I could make her scream like that, so I reluctantly declined as politely as possible.
This, too, was a memorable bit of flavor for me.
I’m Saito, a columnist ♪
> A moderately wealthy older guy: “I may not be popular, but my wallet is!”
> A cute woman: “If you want to be with someone as beautiful as me, pay up!”
> Assuming that’s the bare minimum, please tell me about the more nuanced pleasures beyond that.
You’re a humble person, questioner.
You joined a dating club looking for stimulation you’d never experienced before, but once you’ve gained a certain amount of experience, everything starts to feel boring, doesn’t it?
I wonder what lies beyond that level of enjoyment…
Group play and taking several women out to have fun would probably get boring pretty quickly too. Window-side play, hallway play, outdoor encounters, group encounters…
Why does such a simple act as putting it in a hole get us this excited?
Maybe all living creatures are like that, whether it’s mountain climbing or running marathons.
As ambitious animals, and as humans capable of creating an entire aesthetic around it,
just like the universe that lends shovels to those digging for gold, everything we do is ultimately part of the same endless loop.
Get bored of it quickly, try something else, and when you get bored again, return to the dating club.
Maybe that’s all it needs to be.
As for something “more nuanced,” the answer is really just a matter of checking things out. And, in a sense, the honest answer may not be something that can be given in a place like this.
Let’s have a roundtable discussion someday. Haha.
Maezawa here.
It’s different for everyone, so that’s a difficult question to answer.
I think many men would be troubled if their partner became genuinely serious about them. Even so, wouldn’t it feel good if the other person truly came to like you?
You can also enjoy wondering whether they would still date you if you didn’t have money, and whether you could win them over that far.
