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Nov 22, 2021 03:44
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Today, while I was about to get into a taxi at the station, I saw a little girl, probably elementary-school age, take off her mask right in front of me and drink some juice. I was shocked by her face once she removed the mask.
She had a pig-like, round nose, a long philtrum, and thick, dark lips.
I watched her drink her juice while looking at me with narrow, monolid eyes.
She was so unattractive that I found it unpleasant. I caught myself thinking, “How will she manage to get through life with a face that awful? Even if she could afford plastic surgery, she’s so ugly that she could never become beautiful—she probably couldn’t even have an average-looking face.” I also thought she probably couldn’t do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). It felt like she had inherited all her parents’ worst features.
I guess unattractive parents really do have unattractive children.
When I pass people on the street, I often glance at them and think things like, “Wow, what an awful face,” or “That person is incredibly beautiful.”
Just as people say you can read someone’s character from their features, I feel like you can tell 90% of what someone is like on the inside from their appearance.
Other people shouldn’t matter to me, yet I find myself judging random people I pass by, deciding whether they’re unattractive, beautiful, or handsome. It’s exhausting, and even though I’m the one doing it, it leaves me feeling awful.
Maybe I’m using it to reassure myself of my own worth.
How can I stop thinking of people as ugly?
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🏅 40歳でリアル異世界転生したオッサン l 元金融マン → 現AI界隈
出張ホストの実技試験合格してるので、対女性への無難な前戯とかマナーに一定の知見あり。
Age: 40s
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
In a sense, your appearance is something other people assign value to, right? If you live according to other people’s values, you’ll lose your balance in everything you do. Most people aren’t genuinely thinking about what’s best for you, after all.
Your own values, along with the self-esteem that comes from within, matter more.
Eventually, you’ll probably come to think all of that is pretty ridiculous. Probably.
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スペ90以下のひとを厚く囲い込み、一生面倒見て実質一夫多妻で大切にしたい独身です。
Age: 50s
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Universe member
Seattle.
Maybe it’ll all be fine in 10 or 20 years. Everyone’s looks gradually lose their value equally over time.
You want to be able to feel superior in ways other than just the skin on your face—through your earning potential, the quality of your friends, your hobbies, and so on.
If you enjoy looking at people’s faces on the train, go ahead. Looking in the mirror and admiring yourself is probably fun too. Either way, it all ends when you die, so the winner is whoever has the most fun. Time just keeps passing faster and faster.
Adding to my answer: Of course I look at beautiful women when I see them around town. It’s a feast for the eyes. I don’t look at anyone else because life’s too short.