Is someone considered a mistress because he tells her, “You’re my mistress,” or because she sees herself as his mistress—which is it?
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You know you become someone’s girlfriend when he confesses his feelings, but when does someone become a mistress, and where is the line?
If you’re not married and not officially a couple, but you have a physical relationship, a significant age gap, and he supports you financially, does that make you his mistress?
What’s the difference between a friends-with-benefits arrangement and being a mistress?
Have you ever told someone—or been told—“You’re my mistress”?
Would you be happy to hear that?
I’m in Seattle.
I’ll definitely watch the Papa-Katsu Summit.
I think my definition is pretty close to Kazu’s, too.
I consider being a mistress and papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) to be basically the same—money is involved.
A friends-with-benefits arrangement involves no money and no exclusivity.
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Honestly, I like the term “mistress.”
At my age, I’d feel embarrassed saying I do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
I refer to the men here as “papas,” but I see it as a mistress-type relationship.
Marika
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Mac, I never said I was declaring anything.
People often assumed I was genuinely in love and ended up not giving me an allowance, so now I make it clear from the start that it’s an allowance-based relationship.
That said, “mistress” gives me more of an image of having all your living expenses covered than papa-katsu does.
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Maezawa from the president’s office here with an answer as well.
There’s no point in worrying about the exact definition of the term.
As for whether this question has any real meaning, I don’t think it does at all.
It comes across as something you wrote simply because you wanted attention.
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I’m Kaz, a male member.
“Lover” isn’t a legally defined profession, so I think it’s simply a matter of how you see it.
Do you only become someone’s girlfriend after they confess their feelings? If so, was the girl I dated years ago without ever confessing to her not my girlfriend...?
I’ve also seen cases where a much younger girlfriend receives pocket money, so I think the questioner’s definition is incomplete. Ultimately, if you personally feel that you’re someone’s mistress, then it’s fine to call yourself one.
I think the difference between a friend with benefits and a mistress is whether or not she receives an allowance or some other form of support.
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I hate the term “mistress,” so I never use it.
I’m totally fine with being called a papa or even an ATM.
I remove anything that might make a woman feel even the slightest bit humiliated.
A loser of a man
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