I’ve gone through life without realizing—or perhaps deliberately refusing to see—that I’m out of step with other people. But someone I had just met told me, “If you’re disabled, act like a disabled person.”
Apparently, the way I speak and react is different from that of ordinary people.
I’m frustrated with myself for realizing they were right when they pointed it out.
I’ve learned that you must never show your weaknesses to anyone.
I don’t know how to put it, but I’m a woman who can’t have sex.
Even if someone dotes on me, is it really no good if I can’t have sex?
I’m Shingo Lee, a columnist.
You must have been deeply shocked.
Some people will take advantage of your vulnerabilities and make fun of you, while others believe that when they see someone’s weakness, they should help.
Even if you have a disability, I see it as part of who you are. I have a relative my age with a severe intellectual disability, and I see that as part of who they are as they grow older. They place a burden on the family by needing care, but they give their family their innocent, carefree smile in return.
If you can’t have sex, you can’t use sex to get anything in return. But isn’t that just taking advantage of the “vulnerability” of someone who lacks sex—making you no different from the cruel people who exploit others’ weaknesses?
I think you’re perfectly fine just as you are, whether you have a disability or can’t have sex.
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I’m Ayase Nana ♡
So someone called you disabled, huh? Some people can be truly awful. Forget about them.
Your way of speaking will gradually improve as you talk with more people. I think it would be good to get used to speaking with others.
If you shut yourself away because you think you’re no good, you may never be able to speak comfortably for the rest of your life.
If you don’t want to die alone, keep putting yourself out there.
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I’m Maezawa from the CEO’s office, and I’ll answer too.
> I can’t explain it well, but I’m a woman who can’t have sex.
I can’t say much without knowing why you can’t.
Is it physically impossible for you?
Or is it something you can’t do mentally?
If it’s mental, what way of thinking makes it impossible for you?
Without knowing those things, it’s hard to say.
You also need to explain the part about the person with a disability in more detail, or I can’t understand the situation.
For starters, I don’t know whether you have a disability certificate or not.
Without knowing that, I can’t tell whether you said it to someone without a disability or to someone with one.
I also don’t know the circumstances in which it was said.
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I’m date◎yume, a male member.
> I can’t put it into words well, but I’m a woman who can’t have sex.
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If possible, could you be more specific?
Sorry to give such a general answer, but I suppose it would be difficult if you can’t have sex.
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I’m Dai, a male member.
I don’t think the person asking this question is suited to papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan).
Even if she’s attractive enough to receive plenty of attention, judging from her question, she seems unlikely to be able to satisfy her partner without sex.
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