I was repeatedly hit on in broad daylight by an ordinary office-worker-looking older man, and it really brought me down. Men don’t usually approach women who seem like unattainable beauties, right?
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When I’m hit on by a man who isn’t particularly good-looking—just average or worse—I feel sad, wondering if he thinks I’m someone he has a chance with.
I’m Shingo Lee (Shingori), a columnist.
There’s some variation depending on personal preferences, but the basic principle is that they approach anyone who looks like they have female genitalia, so I don’t think you need to worry about it.
If someone approaches you, just ignore them. If they get annoying, say something to yourself like, “Ugh, it’s creepy when someone’s this persistent even though they’re boring,” and they’ll probably leave.
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I’m Nana Ayase ♡
It seems like more than half of them approach women they think are likely to respond positively.
As for me, I get the |´-`)ﾁﾗｯ|´-`)ﾁﾗｯ—quick sideways glances—a lot.
Sometimes I get stared at so much that I start worrying my skirt might be caught in my underwear.
The men who actually come up to me are usually well-groomed, handsome older guys. Even if things don’t work out that day, they’ll keep trying, saying they’d be happy to just have tea sometime later. I start feeling sorry for them and want to say, “Just this once,” but I don’t (lol).
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
That may generally be the case.
As for me, I only approach women who are truly out of my league.
Since I could only approach one person every few hours, my success rate was almost 100%—though that was a very long time ago.
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I’m Kazu, a male member.
I absolutely hate being approached by street salespeople, so I normally wouldn’t think of approaching a woman myself. If I ever did, it would only be after meeting someone so stunning that I couldn’t bear to let the opportunity pass without saying something.
By the way, isn’t persistent soliciting considered a minor offense or a violation of nuisance-prevention ordinances?
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I think so too.
I was approached by a foreigner again yesterday, and I felt the same way.
I’m wondering if I let my guard down by zoning out while looking at my phone, so I’m reflecting on that.
—Marika
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