I’m renting an apartment for a woman I met through papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). It’s been about three months since we met.

I’m Dai, a male member. Telling her you don’t want her dating anyone else is already quite controlling. Asking her not to have another papa (a male supporter) is probably the absolute limit. It felt cowardly to take advantage of the fact that she can’t rent a place on her own.

I’m Aya, a female member. To put it bluntly, I think there’s a very low chance that your relationship will work out from here. You supported her with all sorts of things too much, too soon after meeting, so it’s obvious she’s started taking you for granted. To put it harshly, she isn’t scared of you at all, nor does she respect you, which is why she feels free to do whatever she wants. She’s probably already bringing other men over. If I were a papa (a male supporter), I’d show up the moment she brought another man over and make her feel guilty, frightened, shocked, and embarrassed—something like, “How did you find out?”—then psychologically take control of her. But if you’re not used to that sort of thing, you’ll probably mess it up, so I can’t recommend it. Unfortunately, I feel like all you can do is turn a blind eye. Next time, you should probably avoid renting a place for someone after only three months.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. What’s disappointing is the questioner’s patronizing mindset. Unfortunately, it’s the kind of mindset that makes women want to walk away. It’s not about getting her consent—there’s no point if your everyday behavior makes her not want to be with you.

Maezawa from the CEO’s Office here. > “I’m totally fine with hanging out with male friends or going out to eat.” If that’s what she said, then she’s simply spending time with male friends, which seems to fall within what the questioner agreed to. I’m not sure why you’re disappointed, but if you are, it seems like you can simply end the relationship. If she’s having trouble finding a place to live, perhaps you could arrange for the rent to be paid directly so that the responsibility doesn’t fall back on you in the event of missed payments or other issues.